Alicia - posted on 10/07/2016 ( 16 moms have responded )
The post that was written by Courtney and can clearly identify myself. The ex inlaws were in conspiracy for a while since I arrived in Johannesburg and when they found out I suffered depression and was staying in a room because I could not find suitable employment they took it upon themselves to call social in and my life has been a nightmare ever since. They have also turned my children against me telling them to call me by my first name and not to call me mom. The mag never listened to much of what I said and they rode all over me. The social worker was only advocating for them, never once came to see my new place or interview me with regards to my depression except questions like "do you have a microwave"? I have only seen them for 1 hour this year in February because she always made arrangements and then would never pitch.
My children wrote a letter at school (boy 12, girl 11). It read: Mom you are a star, mom, please come back to us, mom, please fetch us, mom, we need you mom, please write back to us. I believe the social worker played all of this out to ensure they get my kids (they are unable to fall pregnant) and are buying them everything under the sun - even taking them on a helicopter ride. I went to court on 4 Oct and had to walk away because I felt the tears as they were standing with these people and would not speak but I know my children and could see they wanted to but were uncomfortable. Then the mag gives them to these people for a year - she said it is usually 2 years in SA Law but she will deviate and make it 1 year. I have been crying ever since. I did nothing wrong to them. I have had depression since 1994 when my first son was born - he is now 22. But they saw a loop hole and went for it. There is so much more but I am paining tooooo much, and I cannot stop crying. I am coming to work with no makeup and crying and wondering that now my children will forget me and be lost to me forever. I feel like a zombie inside. I want to crumble into a ball and roll away. To top it off it was 2 days before they removed them that we were playing and laughing and all that. Every now and again since they were very young (I have looked after them by myself since they were 2 and 3 as the father disappeared) they would come up to me randomly and say "mom I love you" and give me a big squeeze. All that is gone now. What do I do. I cannot carry on like this and wait for a whole year cos I know the social worker is going to stop the visits. The mag knew about their letter but failed to ask them about it like she said she would. I know this sounds paranoid but it's like they all went against me in court....nothing I said was right to them. So I walked out of court without my children and them laughing and sneering. They will not even let me see them for xmas, birthdays, or even phone them.