Ncast95 - posted on 01/05/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )
Okay so I am currently 8 months pregnant with my second child, different father. I don't speak to him very often because nothing good ever comes out of a conversation with him. He wants to be involved in his child's life, which is good, but he's asking for many demands! He wants to name the baby, he wants to have his last name used, he wants "50/50" custody, he does not want to pay child support(which I know will happen anyway). The problem with all this is that he's had a bad past. He's a recovering alcoholic, has had problems with prescription drugs, he was also physically abused throughout his childhood and teen years and that still affects him to this day. He is a roommate with his "street brothers" and has all his stuff in a big trash bag in case he ever gets kicked out. There's really no stability on his side. We recently met up at a restaurant to talk about visitation and what we both want. My mom was there as well as one of his friends who he claims is his "witness". The conversation was recorded on both sides. Things were agreed to (i.e. he would be allowed at the birth and to sign the birth certificate) but now that I am further thinking about it I don't want him there. Labor & delivery and even postpartum is stressful enough and I don't want him there to add more stress. If we end up going to court can I get in "trouble" for going back on my word? I didn't sign any documentation stating that what was said was a FINALIZED agreement. I am going to file for sole physical and legal custody. I just want to know if anything agreed or said in the phone recording has to be abide by?