Whitney - posted on 04/07/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
My son will be three years old in two months; I can't believe how quickly the time has flown by! It's been just him and myself since his father and I split up two years ago. We live in our own apartment, but my parents watch him while I'm at work.
Here's my problem. I want to celebrate his birthday party with just me and him this year. I have it all planned out. I'm going to make homemade paints and an A-Frame tent with white canvas for us to paint and camp out underneath. I'm making his birthday cake, just a small one for the two of us. I plan on buying him one of those hard plastic swimming pools and filling it up, adding "fish" inside and giving him a "fishing pole". With all his favorite finger foods and snacks to munch on, plus glow sticks, flash lights, bubbles, and "lightening bug" lamps, I had planned on having a very special day with him.
The problem is, when I mentioned it to my parents, they got upset. We've had his 1st and 2nd birthday parties at their house, and while fun, it really stressed me out. They think I should throw his party at their house again, invite my brothers, sister in laws, and nieces, neighbors and friends. I should buy his cake and presents instead of making them. I shouldn't monopolize my son on his birthday and should let him have a birthday party.
Now, I don't make very much money. I want to do all those things for my little man, but I was really excited about having a celebration with just the two of us. I feel like I'm being guilt tripped into doing something that I honestly just can't afford. My parents have helped me raise my little boy these last two years, and while thankful, I just want it to be me and him.
I had thought about having a small bbq at my parents house for my son's birthday, the weekend before his actual birthday, but was told I was being selfish for not throwing an extragavant party like my brothers do for my nieces.
Am I being selfish like they said? Am I doing wrong by not wanting to throw a big party? Is it really so bad that I, a single mom who works and goes to school, just want to spend my son's birthday in a fun filled day of just him and I?