Mommy to be

Sasha - posted on 01/02/2014 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Hey my name is sasha and i am just over 1 month and 2 weeks pregnant, i am 16 years old and i am totally freaking out, my family doesnt know still and im scared to tell my mum, the babies dad and i have had a rocky start i diddnt know at the time that he already had a girlfriend, he has chose to stay with her but that we are going to raise the baby together, im scared about becoming alone, i dont know how im going to cope alone with the baby, and whether i am going to be forced to put the baby up for adoption, 💔

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Hi Sasha.
I'd be scared to tell my parents too. Do you have another adult that you can tell and then have the adult be there with you when you tell your mom?
Sweetie, don't count on the boy being around. You guys are both kids. You have to figure this one out.
Start by telling your mom.
Do you really want this child?
There are wonderful awesome couples that are blessed by people who give their children up.
If you don't want to be 'alone', let's just say - Do NOT expect a teenage boy who isn't even dating you, to stick around forever. Eventually he will get married and have a family. The fact is- that most teenage boys DO NOT STICK AROUND TO RAISE A CHILD.
What I mean to say is- that we CANNOT expect boys to be men. Usually girls can be women and parent...but expecting a boy to stick around when he's got a girlfriend?
I'd say go to your mom. Figure it out with her. This is a huge life decision, and do not rely on a boy.
I hope it goes okay with telling your mom. She won't be happy initially so let it sink in with her for days until she can think straight! It's not an easy thing for a mother to hear that.
Good luck to you Sasha.
Keep us posted.

Holly - posted on 01/02/2014

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honey, you're going to be just fine. always keep your head up, if your decision is to keep your baby rather than to adopt out or (god forbid) abort, then stand firm on that decision. it'll definitely take a LOT of hard work and determination, and at times you will feel like giving up.. but ALWAYS let your baby know whether or not daddy stays around that he/she will always have Mommy. i was in your situation not too long ago myself, minus the 11 years in age difference. i was living miserably with roommates, then had(might i say the first one in AGES) a 1 night stand. honestly i didn't think i could get pregnant at all, but well 3 weeks later, SURPRISE! that second line turned pink. my roommate while i was at work one day approximately 6 months pregnant decided to set my stuff outside and leave me a nice 'get lost" note. all i can say is thank God that i have family and friends that care. but anyway, i stayed with my pastor and his wife until my son was almost 3 months old...
when my son was 2 weeks old, i met the man he calls Dada... here it is a year and 3 months later, we just got married and are living pretty happily.

i know it seems like there is nothing there, nobody there to help. but if you need someone to talk to, feel free to talk to me. i know how you feel. i really debated on placing my babyman up for adoption, but now i am glad i didn't. things will be ok sweetie! pray and have faith that GOD will bring you through this.

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