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Hi everyone! This is my 1st post to the community. I have really enjoyed reading the posts of my sisters in this journey through motherhood. I have 3 grown sons, and have had so many experiences in life as a mom, and also as someone with a heart and passion for all children.
I was getting ready to go to sleep tonight, contemplating the intense pain of separation that we go through as our children take flight into their adult lives...and it dawned on me. We spend roughly 2 decades taking personal responsibility for these precious souls who were placed in our care. For many of us, the journey is filled with peril as we pour our blood and guts into literally keeping them alive and breathing (all 3 of my kids had severe asthma as babies and children). Just when we feel like our strength has run out, and our bodies are ready to colapse under the weight of the task before us, a new need surfaces...and in love, we press ourselves above measure to be there for, and comfort our children.
Then, in the blink of an eye, you find yourself at the end of their childhood! By the grace of God you have weathered every storm, and now you have a very different request made on your love. To love them when they were children meant you held on tight and constantly GAVE to them your love, your teaching, your guidance, your PRESENCE physically in their world. And for me, the request being made on my love by my sons is that I humbly retreat and allow them space and privacy to establish themselves in their adulthood.
The pain of the emotional separation is seering, and to me it feels really desolate at times. But that's only because my love for them was and is so intense. What do you guys think? I think we should be patient with ourselves as we let go☺