Moms that lost a Brother or Sister

Gena - posted on 10/15/2013 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am looking for Moms that lost a brother or sister.I would like to know how you tell your children about their Aunty or Uncle that isnt here anymore and how do you explain that they died. How does it affect you etc.Looking forward to meet you moms.

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Gena - posted on 10/15/2013

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We have a beautiful statue of an angel in our garden,and its cute when i told my son did you see the angel and replied, no thats Rebecca.Its sometimes wierd how he gets confused,some pictures we have my sister has short hairt due to the chemo and he says that is him.I guess he is still to young to understand.We have always wanted her to stay in our lives,unfortunatly only pictures,wonderful but also painful memories.But one day he will understand that he has an Aunty up in heaven.

Kelly - posted on 10/15/2013

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I am sorry for your loss as well.. I am tempted to suggest buying something like an angel ornament (maybe a sun catcher variety) you can hang on a sliding door window or kitchen sink window, as a representative that although she's an angel now she's still a part of your family. Just as you know now is not the right time to tell him, you will know later when IS the right time..

Gena - posted on 10/15/2013

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My son is turning 3 in january,he never met my sister.She died of cancer when she was 10years old,this was 8 years ago.We have pictures of her in the house and he knows that her name is Rebecca and we tell him that she is an angel now.We have never said that she is dead or why she died,he is still far too young to understand,but i ask ask myself when and what age and how do you explain it to a child.Sometimes its hard for me because some people keep telling me my son looks so much like my sister and sometimes i even see why they say that,they have the same cute little nose and eyes.I am sorry for your loss.

Kelly - posted on 10/15/2013

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How old are your kids? Did they know the Aunty or Uncle?
My sister in law committed suicide just over a year ago, and I had to tell my kids SOMETHING... it was excruciating. They loved her dearly, we all did.. I didnt tell them what happened to her just that she passed away from being ill. My kids are 15 and 12. Theyre too young still to comprehend death but do know that it happens.. I dont know if you believe in God or anything, but I tld my kids that my sister in law went to live with him because she was sicker than her body could handle. Even today it's still hard for me. I miss her all the time and keep trying to make sense of it.. I dont know that you ever "get over" loosing a sibling (or a sibling-in-law) you just try and keep living without them...

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