Moms, what is your take on piercing an infant/toddlers ears?

Stacy - posted on 03/28/2010 ( 170 moms have responded )

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When my oldest daughter was little I remember going to the store and seeing another little girl, who was no older than 6 months having her ear's pierced. I don't understand how mom's can deliberately hurt their children like that because I remember hearing this child scream from pain over something the mother felt was a necessity.



I guess to me, as a mom, its in my best interest to do what benefits my childs personal safety and health. It kills me enough taking her to the doctor to get a shot and shots are there to help keep her well. Piercings are not something that benefits a childs wellbeing. It's purely cosmetic not only that but there are risks involved with getting them, but there are risks at everything. I just would hate to know that i've done something that wasn't needed that wound up scarring my child for life. Personally, since I'm not one with pierced ears myself, I think that if my mother would have made the executive decision to pierce my ears as a child, that as an adult I would be very angry with her because even though I could take them out and let them close there will always be that small knick in my earlobe because even thought it can close up, the scar is still there and its ugly.



So my question is moms/dads what is your opinion on ear piercing babies and toddlers? I personally am against it and it makes my blood boil, but if you're a mom who made that choice, then why did you? Give me some insight as to why in your eyes its necessary?

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Tanya - posted on 03/29/2010

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I am a mom of a 2 yr old girl and I was also a manager at Claire's Accessories where we were required to be trained in piercing ears. I made the decision to get my daughters ears pierced at 3 months old. That is the youngest they are allowed. I got them pierced that young because I myself had them done that young and at that age the chances of them getting infected or dirty is very little because they aren't really getting into any dirt or mud or anything like that. Also she got use to them being there so she never played with them. Now that she's 2 she still doesn't play with them she thinks it's neat that she can get mommy to change her earrings everyday sometimes to different and fun earrings! It does not hurt the child in any way. It feels like a pinch what makes the child scream is the noise that the ear piercing instrument makes and the fact that they aren't expecting the noise. The other good thing about Claire's is that the earrings coem with locking backings on them. They are EXTREMELY hard to pull off as an adult. So the chances of a child pulling the earrings out is very slim. There isn't any more risk getting you ears pierces as falling down and hurting yourself. They dont' bleed after piercing or anything! I think if your mentally ready to get it done for your daughter then go for it! As long as your prepared to take care of them for the first 6-8 weeks, cleaning them 3 times a day! I definately recommend going to Claire's because they are all trained , they have to be they aren't allowed to work at Claire's if they dont want to pierce ears and they have certain procedures that they have to follow, very clean and sanitary! Good luck Hope this helps you alittle bit!

Angela - posted on 04/02/2010

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I agree with you. I use to work in retail and the jewlery department was right next to me. Parents would bring in their babies and I tell you the crys that came out of those poor helpless babies horrified me. I understand that parents think that it is so cute to have their babies ears pierced but I think it is a vanity issue and more for the mothers image than the baby.. I could be totally wrong but that is just what I see from moms that have done it. I on the other hand have six children three of whom are girls and we do it when they turn nine. That is when my mother took me in cause I wanted it done. I had a slumber party with about six girlfriends and we all went down to the drug store in our jammies and they all watched me get it done. I still remember that day. The pain was enough to make me cry at nine. But I had made the choice to do it. I couldn't imagine doing that to a baby. I think the question is who are you doing it for, and does it really matter.

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I have very strong opinions on this one: Leave the piercings to the girls' choices! Babies are NOT tiny adults. I don't care about cultural differences. Enough! My own daughter-in-law took my precious granddaughter to the doctor for a regular checkup and came home with her ears pierced. My son had a fit because he had already voiced his negative opinion too. Babies get over the pain soon, but this is pure familial vanity.

Nancyromshek - posted on 04/02/2010

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I normally don't post as I feel everyone has their own opinions but, here goes:

(My daughters ages now are 28, 27 and 24!) My oldest daughters ears were pierced by the dr. at 3 days old, middle and youngest at 5 days.( my youngest didn't even cry a peep) My two grand daughters were also pierced with in 2 weeks of birth. There are a number of reasons why I CHOSE to have their ears pierced and glad I did it...

#1 I believe when it is done early before they tug and touch on their ears keeps them from the chances of infection~ and, I believe this is why my daughters and grand daughters Have NOT had infections...but, I have had nieces 10 & 12 yrs old that have had terrible infections because they won't keep their hands off....& do not clean them often enough when first done. ( I cleaned my daughters every other diaper change)

#2 It is easier to have done as an infant before they jerk, toss and turn there heads to much which then also makes correct placement easier

#3 I am the mama and I wanted too :) & my mother had mine pierced as an infant and no I do not hold it against her..lol.... & obviously since my grand daughters ears were pierced as infants, My daughters don't hold it against me either! :)

#4 And, Lastly....I felt it was LESS painful and no more UN-necessary then circumcision and circumcision is done to baby boys every day. (Why NOT let a boy grow UP and decide later if This is what he wants done & when he can take care of it himself :) which by the way as an older person they would put under anesthetics for this procedure but, they Don't babies YIKES) Circumcision in my opinion is also cosmetic. Some like to believe it is necessary which in fact research shows it really is not...and many doctors are NOT for it...In these days of modern conveniences make cleanliness of this area simple & parents by teaching their little boys how to take care of it makes it unnecessary...and if you have ever watched this being done to a little boy THEY SCREAM...and it is sore for days...and, yes many have also been cut wrong which leads to bigger problems! (which I feel is worse then perhaps one earring being a tad off :)

So, I guess in a nutshell it is all our choice as parents whether we decide to pierce our little girls ears or to circumcise our baby boys & we all have our opinions of it and I don't think it would be fair to say that one is right or wrong...so, I guess if a person does not judge me for my little girls ear rings I won't "peek" into your little boys diapers and judge you...lol

Desiree - posted on 04/02/2010

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It's not a very controversial topic. I had my ears pierced when i was a baby. Growing up, i got many more piercings (nothing crazy). Alea is my baby girl. She is a momma's girl and i think her little earings are adorable. She is over a year now and her earings have never bothered her. When she gets older she is more than welcome to take them out. There is rarely an "ugly" scar. You take your kids to get shots, that may or may not benefit them. They have symptoms after the shot and are at a risk of an allergic reaction. Having my babies ears pierced was not necessary but it was something harmless and absolutely removable. I took my daughter to Claires and was furious when i got glares and stares from people; primarily women over the age of fifty. I am a good mom and a young mom. As time goes by, culture changes and piercing is being more accepted. Moms, if you love your ears pierced and want your daughters ears pierced do it when they're young. They forget about it as soon as you get in the car and they dont touch it with their fingers, which is the main cause of infection. But if you are a more conservative mother who never had a piercing then i suggest waiting. It may be an experience with your daughter if you both get them pierced.

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Roberta - posted on 02/21/2012

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Just recently saw this conversation, and without implying criticism in any way would suggest that ANY time we choose to modify our infant/child's body the first question we might want to ask ourselves is "why", not "when can I." To be really honest with ourselves as mothers is an important, no very important issue. We pierce infant ears because we think it's attractive or, in some cases gender identifying. We need to think seriously about the reasons we do things that bring pain, if only for a moment, to our children. We often shirk the "pain" of discipline, but choose to allow the "pain" of piercing. Just something to think about.

Roberta - posted on 02/21/2012

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Just recently saw this conversation, and without implying criticism in any way would suggest that ANY time we choose to modify our infant/child's body the first question we might want to ask ourselves is "why", not "when can I." To be really honest with ourselves as mothers is an important, no very important issue. We pierce infant ears because we think it's attractive or, in some cases gender identifying. We need to think seriously about the reasons we do things that bring pain, if only for a moment, to our children. We often shirk the "pain" of discipline, but choose to allow the "pain" of piercing. Just something to think about.

Kylene - posted on 02/02/2012

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my little girl got her ears pieced at 6 months old.. her big sister was there who she absolutely loves to death.. she cried for about 10 seconds and we had her lauighing again.. i think it is a parents judgement on what they want. i am for it.. my fiancee is against it.. but i won a bet and thats how she got her ears pieced,.

Christy - posted on 04/02/2010

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I had my daughter's ears pierced at 18 months. She hopped right into the chair. They pierced both at the same time, and I was standing there with a lollipop (that they provided) to pop in her mouth when they were done. She cried for a split second until the lollipop was in her mouth, and then it was over. She smiled for a picture a minute later. And now has no memory of it. Right after us was a 7 year old girl who wanted her ears pierced. Once they open the box of earrings, you have to pay for it whether you use them or not. They opened the box and the girl changed her mind. the mom and the girl were arguing about it when we left. Our experience was more pleasant!

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My oldest daughter got her ears done when she was about 5 months old. We did it because of just because she is a little girl and I had mine done when i was baby. Also her papa, hubbys father, wanted to get them done. It didn't bother me or my hubby, i guess cause she didn't cry much after it was done. As for my youngest, she was almost two when we got hers done. We waited so long because we were in Germany and we were moving back to the states. She saw sissy with earrings and wanted her ears done. My mother, uma, took her to get them done. I have met parent that didn't do it because they felt that when they get old enough to want them then they can get them, instead of making that desicion for them and then later down the line, the child doesn't want them anymore. We didn't do it because we wanted to inflict pain on our children. We did it because we wanted to because they were little girls. It did help people to realize that they were girls not boys. We did have numerous times, where they girls when babies were wearing all pick or purple and we got asked if she was a little boy.

Amanda - posted on 04/02/2010

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I think at the right time its very appropriate I say the younger the better they tend to not touch the area when they are smaller.

JUNE - posted on 04/02/2010

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BOTH MY DUAGHTERS HAD THIER EARS PEIRECD ONE AT 1 YEARS OLD AND IT WAS WITH A GUN AT THE JEWERLY STORE AND ONE WA DONE BY HER AUNT AND IF YOU ASK THEM NOW IF THEY FELY PAIN BACK THEN THEY DONT REMEMBER,I THINK ITS UP TO EACH PERSON,MY LIL GRANDAUGHTER CANT HAVE HER EARS PIRECED UNLESS SHE IS WELL HEART PROBLEMS.THINGS LIKE THAT SHOULD BE TAKEN SERIOUSELY.HEALTH ISSUES ECT.I HOPE I HAVE HELPED.HAVE A BLESED ADY JUNE

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Yes we did my 2 year old for aa valentines day present.We asked her, she said yes, and she loved it, and still does. And they healed so quickly. Kids get over things so quick when they believe a kiss gets rid of pain :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/02/2010

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In my opinion the child should be old enough to take care of them. An infant does not have a voice and cannot speak for herself. I agree it is like giving them a tattoo! Jewelery on children under the age of two is ridiculous! Save the ear piercing for when she asks for it and make it a celebration day. Ear piercing, lunch, movie etc. Have day that she can look forward to.

JoAnn - posted on 04/02/2010

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For some people it IS a cultural expectation. Just ask the Grandmas! But for our family, we used it as a rite of passage. Our daughter wanted her ears pierced, she was maturing into a responsible young woman, so we said that would be our recognition of it. It wasn't just a matter of being responsible enough to care for her ears or the jewelry. It was more a matter of character development. We need those types of touchpoints in our lives and this was a good opportunity to "make a moment".

Zowie - posted on 04/02/2010

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There are a few reasons why i had my daughter's ears pierced. she looked very much like her brother and unless i dressed her in pink all the time people would ask me what my son's name was which as much as i know that is no reason to put your child through pain at a young age, she made less noise about getting her ears pireced then she did when i took her to get her needles and that is something that is suppose to help her well being. Now that she is older she has since said to me that she likes looking pretty with her pretty earrings in and is constantly telling me that 'mummy you have pretty earrings like me'. I had no problems with her ears after they were pierced. Another reason why I got her ears pierced at an early age was due to her being little there was no chance off her pulling them out or her playing with them causing an infection which can happen. I kept them clean and ensured that they didn't get caught when i was changing her and she was fine with having them. My daughter is constatly asking me to buy her pretty earrings when she goes shopping with me. i have no regrets in what i did in regards to getting my daughter's ears pierced, and she has shown no signs of hating me for it. Everyone is entitled to their opinion.

User - posted on 04/01/2010

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Its fine they will cry for a few seconds and then it will be over, and they will not remember. My daughter was 3 months old when she had her ears pierced. today she is 14 and the kids today have lots of piercing. They (the earings look great on her she loves her diamonds... what women doesnt..............Earings look beautiful .....everyone has their own opinion about piercing and this is mine ...... :)

Megan - posted on 04/01/2010

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My daughter was almost 5 months old when we pierced her ears she didnt even cry for a minute, the click scared her more than anything. she looked so cute! We peirced them and 2 days later she passed away of SIDS. I do not regret doing it at all, its not a neccesity it is a choice and its scares them more than it hurts. She was and still is my beautiful baby girl with her ears peirced!!

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When my daughter was 2 I asked her if she wanted earings. She got excited and told me yes. So I took her to Claire's and had them do a "double", when 2 people pierce her ears at the same time. She flintched, but didnt cry.. Then I took the mirror and quickly showed her, her new earings... She loved them, and the pain had slipped her mind completely.

Fawn - posted on 04/01/2010

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That's Ok...Its your opinion...And that is Ok...But this is what I did. I don't have any regrets about when I did it, neither does my daughter...And thats Ok. too. Thank You for sharing.

Tabbitha - posted on 04/01/2010

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I believe that piercing their ears when they are so young isn't okay either. I think that having your ears pierced should be a responsibility for them and they need to understand the importance of cleaning and properly taking care of it. Something that should be earned and appreciated rather than doing it when they have no clue.

Fawn - posted on 04/01/2010

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Dear Mom with infint child;

I had my daughters ears pierced when she was 6 months old. She is now 27. It was not a decision out of "necessity" but rather at the time they were really cute. The peircing only took seconds and I was able to keep her ears clean until they healed. She didn't cry for long, and after about an hour she forgot...It is a personal choice, and in the long run...yes as an adult or even a teen they can choose to lt them grow back. But the "scar" is just tiny and who really notices your ears? People look at your eyes firs not your ears...Its really not that huge of a deal. However, in my case, my daughter never did let hers grow over...she continues to were earrings ro can go days with out any...Again its not that huge of a deal. Children are pretty resiliant. They don't remember the pain of shots as babies or the stud peiercing their ear. But it is up to you. I had mine done as a young teen, with out the use of a gun...so it is a lot more safe now than it was 30 years ago....Just remember that as your child grows up...they may decide to have it done anyway..which is still OK.

Jessica - posted on 04/01/2010

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Ok, I am tired of hearing people say when their old enough when their old enough, you know what it is better to get their ears pierced when they are younger because I went through the whole process. My mom pierced mine when I was 6 months old an I took them out when I was 5 an I regret it because then I got them pierced when I was 10 an they got infected because I wasnt ready to take care of them. That is a bunch of peoples mistakes, you think just because they are older they will take care of them you are wrong, I didnt. So then I got the pierced when I was like 13 an I wish I would of never ever taking them out in the first place because it hurt like hell.



Do what you want people, all I am saying is it is btter to get them done when they are younger because it is just a pinch like getting a shot because when you are a baby an get a shot they dont do it one at a time they do two at a time or at least thats what my doctor did for my two kids, an thats like getting your ears pierced when you are little. They dont do them one at a time they do them at the same time.



So its your choice all Im saying it is dont compare it to a tattoo because a tattoo hurts so much worse and I would know, and also dont compare it to a shot because its the same. Also I think it is easier to get them done when tey are younger because you are taking care of them and cleaning their ears not them, because again they might not do it twice a day, they might not even do it an think well I got them done now I dont gotta d anything. If you get them done when they are younger you know they wont get infected because you are cleaning them yourself an you know they will be cleaned. My daughter is getting her ears pierced for easter an her grandmother is getting it done an she is excited and shes only 2, I said I was going to wait til she was older also then I remembered that she might not even take care of them an then they get infected an there goes my money down the drain. When I know for a fact that if I get them done when I have to clean them then I know they wont get infected.



That is all I have to say, its your choice but this is my advise.

Julie - posted on 04/01/2010

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HI, I have 2 daughters that both have there ears pierced at 4-8 months old... I did this because I had gotten mine done when I was 11 and my younger sister was 5. And both had infections and kept touching them so they didnt heal right... Getting my daughters done at a young age. Neither of them really cried. And my oldest didnt even notice her ears were done till she was 4. And when they are that little they dont remember it after an hour. And their holes didnt get infected like mine and my sisters. I was against it with my first child and had a hard time telling her dad I was ok with taking her to get them... But, It was all ok and she did great. I hope this helped you... But, it is totally your choice and i think also that leaving it up to your daughter is a good choice too.

Swetha - posted on 04/01/2010

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i don't have a girl..:( and have no intention to pierce my boys' ears. I had my ears pierced at about 2 months, and i guess it didn't hurt as much as when i got it re pierced at 13 years, So guess better soon than late.go for it.

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I had my 1st daughter's ears pierced at 9 months old at the pediatrician's office.......they did both ears simultaneously and she cried for less than a minute, after that there was never an issue again.......I had my 2nd daughter done at 3 months, again initial crying and it was over.......as they get older, most are afraid of the pain and will not want to do it.....I personally felt it was very safe....

Jill - posted on 04/01/2010

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I'm not against it... but here's my two cents worth. There are few things in a child's life that they get make a big decision on. A little girl (or boy) choosing to get her or his ear pierced is one of those "big" decisions that she should be able to make. My oldest girl chose to get her ears pierced for her 5th birthday. My 6 year old still hasn't decided if she wants them pierced or not. My 13 year old son chose to get his ear pierced when he was 8. It was an exciting decision that my children has been able to make for themselves when they've been ready to. Parents make decisions for their kids all the time. Let your children make one "big" one, such as when to get their ears pierced and it'll make them feel so important! I vote for waiting to get your child's ears pierced til their old enough to make the decision for themselves!

Stacey - posted on 04/01/2010

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I also do not understand why people need to pierce there childs ears when they are too young to even want them, but I do not thinkitis really that painful to them, think about how little boys that go throught cirumsion now that has got to be painful and you dont hear of them haveing any kind of trauma from the pain of that so I doubt peircing a baby's ears will either. I have 3 daughter's and I have decided since they were born that when they are old enought to ask for earings they can have them my oldest daughter who is going to be 7 this year asked for her ears peiced when she was 2 1/2 she kept saying she wanted earings so I told her for her birthday she could get her ears pireced so when she turned 3 I took her and she got them she didnt cry or anything but then at 4 she decided she didnt want them anymore she found them uncomfortable so now she no longer has earings and my other two daughters 3 and 2 have never asked for earings either. I personally think that people should wiat till there child asks them for earings beucase maybe they woudlnt even want them.

Julia - posted on 04/01/2010

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my mom said i was supposed to wait til i was 16 and able to be responsible for them...but she gave in and let me get them done around 13 cus its how i remember my great grandma cus thats the age i was when she passed away...i am gonna do the same with my daughter and have her wait til shes responsible for them and makes the choice to get them pierced...hope this is good advice to all moms

Kristen - posted on 04/01/2010

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i think its fine. everyones opinion is gonna different on this one some for it some against it. I personally have an almost 5month old daughter and im getting hers done. I got my ears pierced when i was 7 and hindsight i wish my parents would have done it when i was a baby so i wouldnt remember it but ohh well alls well that ends well. In any event no one should criticize anyone for their decision. No one has room to judge someone they dont agree with.

Trish - posted on 03/31/2010

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some people think it's ok to do it but I my self think that if I had a girl or even with my son I would wait and let him or her decide on their own if and when they want their ears pierced.

Aisha - posted on 03/31/2010

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I remember begging my mom to pierce my ears when I was about 4. Got them done when I was five, and FOUGHT to keep them even though both ears were infected. My daughter will be three soon, and she wants "pretties" too. I'm gonna let her get it done this summer.

Pain is relative. If you know your child hurts easily, then wait...my kids are almost as tough as their mommy, so I know she will be fine.

Hayley - posted on 03/31/2010

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i didnt get my ears pierced until i was 15 years old.. because thats when i wanted them done.. so i wont be getting my daughters ears pierced until she asks to get them pierced, that way it is entirely her decision.

Larissa - posted on 03/31/2010

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I got my little girls ear's done at the age of two my husband stayed outside when i took her in i ask him why and he said i don't want to see her go through pain but when she came out she was so happy he could not believe it. You can get cream to num the ear so it does not hurt the child. My mum did it to me when i was 6 month old and i love them.

Karla - posted on 03/31/2010

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My ears were pierced at age 8 and it was painful and later they were infected. I hesitated at having my first two daughters' ears pierced. I did pierce their ears at the mall when they were about 6 months and they cried for a minute, if not less. Then, when they were about 12, they asked for a second piercing, and I relented, saying they could ONLY EVER pierce their ears.

My third daughter also had her ears pierced as a baby but she didn't wear earrings all the time. She then had them almost shut when I put earrings on again and this was painful!

I guess if you do it when they're less than a year old, then it isn't so bad. It isn't traumatic...never compared to being ejected out of the uterus through the birth canal anyway, and they survive and don't remember that!

Personal choice, I say.

Jessica - posted on 03/31/2010

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if you pierce their ears when they are younger they forget about the pain right after like they do with shots.. if you wait til their older its gonna bug them longer.. i had mine pierced when i was 5 or 6months old and im glad they did it

Sarah - posted on 03/31/2010

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Just wanted to add... it has nothing to do with NECESSITY.. i doubyt any parent who had their childs ears pierced would say they did it out of "necessity". What is necessary anyway? Circumcision isn't, putting your girl baby in pink isnt, very very few things are... so the idea that it is something someone who do because they felt they HAD TO is just ridiculous. parents make choices. Some choice to do diapers, some choice to do elimination communication, some choose organic, some do vegetarian.. either way i would say that most parents... especially related to this issue, are not doing something to purposefully harm their child. ... they are doing, what THEY BELIEVE will be something their daughter will like when she is older. I have yet to meet someone who had their ears pierced as a baby and said, when they were 8 "i wish i would have had a choice" or when they were 35 " i hate having my ears pierced"... its just not that big of a deal. We get ours kids clothes we think look cute on them, we get them haircuts we like.. they dont have a choice and plainly DONT CARE till they are like 3, so its completely a personal decision parents make. There are risks to vaccines too... and circumcision, but when you decide to do those things you understand the risks and BELIEVE the benefits outweigh them. That is what piercing baby parents do.... they think the benefits outweigh the risks...

Apera - posted on 03/31/2010

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I have 2 daughters and preg with 3rd. I had their ears pierced when they were 3 months old and now they are 11 and 6. We didnt have any problems and they only cried for a few minutes. And my reasoning behind this is because when I was 7 I wanted my ears piereced so bad like my friends but I was to scared of the pain. I wished my parents would of done mine when I was a baby. They are glad I chose to do that when they were young because now they can wear pretty earrings and not have to be scared or go through the pain. I plan on doing the same to my daughter due in May.

Holly - posted on 03/31/2010

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I dont think there is anything wrong with piercing your daughters ears. I had my daughters done at the age of 4 months, she cried for maybe 10 or 15 mins. and it was forgotten. Shes is 14 years old now and she thanks me often for doing it, she says this way she doesn't remember the discomfort and is very happy with her pierced ears. It is however a choice by the parent to do this, but don't look down on parents for making this choice, they don't critisize you for not doing it.

Sarah - posted on 03/31/2010

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My mom got my ears pierced when I was only 2 weeks old. I was always glad because when I was 4 or 5 and all my friends wanted to do their ears, I knew i would have been to scared if they werent already done. The best benefit to me is that now as an adult I dont HAVE TO wear earrings and the hole never closes, however since they are older holes I dont wear heavy earring because they are more likely to stretch. When i had my daughter i knew i wanted to get her ears pierced too.. my husband wasnt ok with the 2 week mark so we waited till3 months. Claires in the mall said they like to do them after the babys first round of vaccinations (which is around 3 months). We opted out of vaccinations so when we brought her in at 3 months old we just said she was "up to date on her vaccination scheduled" which she was since her vac schedule is nada. Anyway we have had NO PROBLEMS at all with them and i am totally happy we did it. The pediatrician suggested that we do it before she was 6 months old so that she wouldnt pull at them so i say that if you are going to do it then do it between 3 and 6 months or else wait until your daughter is about 4 and she understands not to pull at them.

Lucy - posted on 03/31/2010

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I'm with you Stacy!



I think it looks creepy and just isn't necessary.



As for the "is it a boy or a girl?" thing, my daughter had no hair until she was a few months old and we just put a pink hat on her, or a little head band with a bow. It solved the problem, and no holes!

Carmen - posted on 03/31/2010

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Hi Stacy,

I am 55 years old and had my ears pierced when I was two days old. Does it bother me that my mom had my ears pierced at that young age? Not at all. It is a tradition of my family. I became a mom myself and chose not to pierce my daughter's ears until she wanted them pierced at the age of I think 8. I can't stand to go out without earrings. I feel naked. There are worse things. My mother-in-law always wanted her ears pierced and my father-in-law hates pierced ears. I told her that it was her ears not his. She was 65 years old when she went and got her ears pierced and she loved it. It's not painful at all. I hate tatoos but as long as it's not me I don't care who has them. I hope that this helped why some people like piercing.

Colleen - posted on 03/31/2010

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my daughter was 7 weeks old when i got hers done. she never once played with them. she never even knew they were there until she was a little older. there is nothing wrong with it.

Vonnie - posted on 03/31/2010

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Personally I do not think that a baby of toddler should get their ears pierced. Let the child get old enough to decide and to take care of them. It is unnecessary. If your child has no hair, put a bow on her head with a headband or a small dot of elmers glue and attach a bow. Elmer's glue is water soluble and will rinse out without residue. Dress her in pink, lavender. Put flowers of all colors on her, a bonnet. Sometimes is a cultural thing.

Connie - posted on 03/31/2010

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I got my daughters done at 2 months after her first set of shots and she didn't cry I chose to get it done early so that they are a normal part of her body and she doesn't play with them or touch them and it isn't a health risk if you keep them clean older children are more likely to get them infected by touching and playing with them than a baby.

Lyndsey - posted on 03/31/2010

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WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE? dont you think its your childs decision not yours? would you be happy if your parents had tattooed your face at 6 months because they liked it? my daughter is 3 and ASKED for them. amazing, deciding to let your kid choose whether to stick needles through themselves. i have lots of piercings, so is it ok for me to get my 10 month old's lip or eyebrow pierced? and a mermaid tattooed on his chest?? arrogance, plain and simple.

Kim - posted on 03/31/2010

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this is why most new moms get their babys ears pierced with gold real goal not gold overlay

Kim - posted on 03/31/2010

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I had my daughters ears pierced at 2 months. She cried until I picked her up I cleaned them everyday and never had a problem with them. She is now 15 months and does not bother them. I think the earlier you get them done the better they heal because you do not have the kids pulling at them. My niece who is 4 got her ears pierced about 3 months ago her parents had to fight her to clean them and they ended up getting inffected and now they are closed. I do not see how parents can say that it cause unnessary pain for the child. At 2 months the baby will not remember what it felt like. If you do not want to have your childs ears pierced then don't but don't try and tell someone that it will cause thier child unnessary pain because it does not. Getting your ears pierced is like a pinch and only last for about a second. I also do not agree that it is like vaccinations because with the vacines the part that usally hurts is the vacine entering the body not the needle.

Kelly - posted on 03/31/2010

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piercings SHOULD NOT BE PERFORMED WITH A GUN!!! a needle is the cleanest and most safe way to pierce anywhere!!! only use a proper piercing studio. i'm into piercings but i wont pierce my baby girls ears til she's old enough to decide for herself.

Renee - posted on 03/31/2010

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I really think it is a personal choice. I wasn't allowed to get my ears pierced until I was 16 and by a doctor. My mother was European and wanted to get them pierced when I was a baby, but my father was against it. When my two girls were born, I had them pierced at 3 months and never had any problems with them. My first daughter had no hair and even when I put her all in pink, people would still say "What a cute baby boy!" My second daughter, now almost 15, decided she did not like to have them changed, so I let her stop wearing them. Now, though, if she decides she wants to wear earrings, she can.

Krystal - posted on 03/31/2010

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i think its fine, would really love to get my daughters done but cant find a place that will do till she's 8! another 6 years to wait, ne 1 know ne wea n nz thtl do it????

Brenna - posted on 03/31/2010

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When my daughter was born, honestly it did not cross my mind to get her ears pierced. My personal point of view is that I want my daughter to grow up to be and independent person and independent thinker. I want her to be able to decide for herself that that is what she wants for herself and I also want her to be old enough to take care of them herself. My parents did not let me get my ears pierced until I was 9 and asked for it. I understand why people do it but it just was not what I wanted for my child.

Christal - posted on 03/30/2010

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I pierced my little girls ears when she was almost a year old and to our unfortune they got very very infected even though we done all that we were supposed to. Her little ear swelled to the point of having to have the earring removed, we never made that mistake again she is now 11 and choose on her own at 10 to have her ears pierced.

Peggy - posted on 03/30/2010

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i find it much better for an infant to have the piercings done....it isn't the pain that actually bothers them...its the noise of the gun when it is pushed thru the skin....my daughter is now 14, and wants another piercing, but she is petrified of having it done....because she has a major fear of needles.....if it wasn't done when she was little it would never be done....

it isn't about being necessary, it is about making a difference....my children had very little hair up t the age of 3 or 4 years old....no matter what i had on them for clothes or how pink the clothes were, ignorant people would comment on how adorable my SON is......and once their piercings were done it stopped.....it is more about tradition....rather than a necessity....just like tatoos and other rituals that other people perform....like circumcision are for the jewish people...it has nothing to do with loving my kids or not....it has everything to do with what i believe...

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