Janice - posted on 06/11/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )
Dear Moms: Your Opinion Counts
I had a first husband, child, and divorced. My child was with me always. After I remarried, my son's dad did not want him to go away, understandably. I had to go to Germany without him,and he was just 9 years old. I know I committed the Mother Sin, leaving my son with his dad and wonderful stepmom. I arrived in Germany with a shattered heart,how could it not be so? I saw my boy regularly,at summer and every 2nd christmas. I assumed my new husband would be willing to move to North America with because of my suffering. 2 years turned into 4.,and then I said I can't wait any longer, he's only a boy once and he needs his mother,regardless of how marvelous the stepmom. I have been back now for 2 years, we have a great relationship, and he was just so happy that he didn't bother be angry.
So, the conversation, be as truthful as you think...cuz hubby in Germany feels"rejected, abandoned" and that my place is with him.
Should I have left for Germany? Some people say I was more obligated to my husband because of the vows.
Was I right to leave my husband and come back for my son?
Was it right for my husband to expect me to come to Germany without my son?