Amber - posted on 01/12/2011
We're both on the same page about it, and I think that you really have to be for it to work well. We're thinking that we'll start trying in summer or fall of this year to have another child (if he gets some vacations from the military).
We have a 4 year old, but we wanted to wait a little while. I was finishing my second college degree (which I finish in May) and being staying home with our son. And he was finishing medical school and working. We had plenty of time for one child, but didn't feel we could raise two children with the type of love and attention we want to give them.
Iridescent - posted on 01/12/2011
My husband and I have discussed this often. While in a perfect life more kids would be great, we don't have a perfect life. Our youngest 3 are all 3 and we're exhausted. Neither of us foresees a future where we can even sleep at the same time, or for more than 3-4 hours even, unless either a miracle or a disaster happens. Emotionally, it's a lot to ask and we both know preventing a pregnancy is the best thing for us. At some point in the future when our lives are stable (if ever), we may consider adopting an older child. To intentionally have an ill baby is cruel beyond what our minds can do, so we don't intend to.
Sarah - posted on 01/12/2011
My husband & I have a 15 month old son, and I would like to start trying for our second this summer (July or so). My husband is a "lets just go with the flow & see what happens" kinda guy lol. I think we're both on the same page as far as children goes. We both want to make sure we are financially stable & can realistically afford a second child. We'll see what happens in about 6 months. :)
Melissa - posted on 01/12/2011
We honestly cannot decide if we want to have more children. I truly believe my husband would be happy with just the one we have. I had a lot of complications when I was pregnant with our son and, as a result, he was born 7 weeks early and I spent almost 2 weeks in the hospital. I know that my husband fears that happening again.
In many ways I can definitely see us just having one child but I would also feel incredibly guilty about our son not having any siblings. My sister is my best friend and I can't imagine not having her in my life.
Bonnie - posted on 01/12/2011
I have 2 boys, ages are 4 and almost 2.5. I have wanted another baby (this would be the last one) for almost a year now. At first he said no then he thought about it and said maybe. Now he keeps putting it off. I will be having another discussion with him very soon and i'm hoping he will have a final answer for me. I don't want them all to be too far apart in age. My first 2 kids are 21 months apart. I don't mind 3-4 years in age difference, but we would have to start trying within the next few months in order for that to happen. I personally don't want to wait forever and if he puts it off again I will likely say forget it. Sometimes I think he is putting it off he truly doesn't want another one, but he doesn't want to hurt my feelings. I don't care for that though.
Kimberly - posted on 01/12/2011
I have one 16 month old daughter and would like to start trying for our second baby after her second birthday, but I've decided to let my husband decide when to have the next baby since I decided (and pushed him a little into it!) when to have our first...we're both undecided about whether to have a third child, but we'll see what happens I guess!
Louise - posted on 01/12/2011
I think it should be a joint decision and things have to be the right time for both of you. My husband and I both agreed on our first two children but then when the youngest was 4 i was ready to have another but he was not so I had to respect his wishes, however much I really did want another baby. After 15 years I approached him again as I felt time was running out and after many hours of dicussion we finally agreed. I do regret not pushing him and having our daughter earlier but in fairness he was right as we raised our sons quite comfortably and having three kids would of ment buying a bigger house and car and more. Now our eldest son has moved out to uni our youngest drives so in affect we only have one child that needs our full time car and we are quite comfortably off.
This is one of the most important things to get right in a marriage as it has such an impact on day to day life.
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