mother and daughter falling out

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Sarah - posted on 12/02/2015

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That's unfortunate. Have you talked to her about why she lies? What is she lying about?

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Eileen - posted on 12/02/2015

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Hi sorry got typing and could not stop,so should i walk away from her,her birthday is coming up,and the babies due soon,i dont feel like i want to see her and it does not sound she wants me in her life,thankyou for replying.

Raye - posted on 12/02/2015

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I couldn't read all that with the lack of punctuation and no paragraph breaks.
Basically what I got is that your daughter is making bad choices, and you're enabling her. She's 40, she should be more responsible, and you should be helping her by not putting up with her bullshit. She needs to learn that her actions have consequences. It's a hard lesson, sure, and the children may suffer some for it. But it's on HER for making bad choices and putting everyone in such chaos. If you keep taking her back and buying stuff for her, she will never learn.

Eileen - posted on 12/02/2015

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hi thanks we have tried all this im at my wits end.with her its hurtful when she says you are no mother of mine...where do i go from here....

Eileen - posted on 12/02/2015

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Hi its a long story but i will try to keep it short,we first found out when she was 16,we went on holiday ,when we got back she told her friend and her mum we was nasty to her she had only cup a soups the whole week and her dad was spying on her through the binoculers when she went for a walk,and how hard done to she is,the mother found out later she was lying and sent me a lovely bunch of flowers,just lately 4 years ago she left her husband and came back home to us with 2 children,then she met a man who she fell in love with and set up home together,alarm bells started to ring when she found out he did drugs,and she came back home, after 2 week she went back and to cut a long story short we took her back after 9 more times of leaving him she came back again with all her stuff furniture every thing she owned ...this would happen 1 a month but we put up with it,we kept her and 2 grandchildren the whole time with out as much of thankyou and she was waited on hands and foot,the last time she went back to her own house and her husband moved out,she was never going back to him.then again 2 week later he had moved in with her in her own home,he stayed out all weekend and drank and she would put things on face book about,ill never go back with him only days after he would be back again.by now her daughter age 15 would ring me early hours of the morning that they are arguing again ..i cant stand no more nan im on the park come and get me,this is 4-30 in the morning bear in mind so we would go and pick her up,,,at 16 she had had enough and came to live with us,my daughter choose her boyfriend over her daughter,now inberween all this lots of lies came out,i could be here all night so i am trying to keep it short,i have got another grandaughter age 8 as well my daughters child,last xmas i asked my grandaughter to ask her mum to come and pick the xmas presents up for her daughter,she did not come in so my elder grandaughter took them out to her car and she had brought my 8 year old granddaughter in the car with her later,i got a tex saying i had spoilt xmas for my grandaughter now she wont believe in father xmas and how orrible i was,when she knew she was picking them up when she came,a few week ago she had to get out of her home because the morgage was not being paid and now is pregnant so i gave her the deposit to rent a house for her and my grandaughter and the baby..again she was never going back to him,bought her a second hand car again for her to get to work because her car was no good (about the 6th time we have bought her one) week later he moves back in with her.....now then i texed her to see how she was she had flu so called up on the sunday and she was going out for lunch and looked better ..monday morning i got a tex to say im not going to work no need to pick my grandaughter up from school texed back hope you ok xxx.later on my grandaughter tex me to say her sister was at her house not at school,now like most mums i thought oh hope she is ok with being pregnant so i rang her boyfriend to say is she ok if she would have told me i would have had my grandaughter and taken her to school for her ,he was polite and said i will get her to ring you.next thing i know iv never asked about her which i did and what as it got to do with you,and more abuse i need to see a doctor and how my mum is frightened of me...and how every one knows what you are like...and how i need to see a doctor...i was only offering my help and then a tex you are no mother of mine,im sure she is nasisits sorry cant spell,but been on line and she as many of the symtons al lso called me a bitch... every one said how spoilt she was as a child,it was her 40th birthday last year and i got her a card and put less money than i use to ,she then went on face told everyone and then said on face book f..k you and our names not mum or dad..how bad is that,sorry its long but could write for ever on how she as hurt us ....
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Sarah - posted on 12/02/2015

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Then love her the best you can and call her out when you catch her lying. You don't have to tolerate dishonesty, but at 40 I don't know if she'll change her ways.

Eileen - posted on 12/02/2015

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Hi yes i have,she verbaly abuses me,i have done every thing i can to help her and when she has what she wants starts again.

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