Sara - posted on 12/17/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I'm a first time mom, my baby girl is 7 weeks old. Since she was born I've been having a bad time dealing with my mother-in-law and sisters-in-law (both in their 40s and no children). They behave as if they were the mom of my baby and I really can't take their behaviour. Anytime we visit with the baby they comment on the way I feed her, hold her, etc. When I change her nappy they all gather around me and stare at the poor baby all the time. My mother in law always insists on feeding the baby. I can't breastfeed, therefore I decided that, apart from my husband, I'll be the only one to bottlefeed my daughter, since this is a moment of bonding for us. Last night, at a family dinner at my husband's cousin's, my baby fell asleep while we were having dinner and I put her in her travel bed in the living room. Well as soon as I got back to the dining room to finish my dinner, my mother-in-law left the table and the guests (she hadn't finished her meal yet) and walked straight to the living room where my baby was sleeping, sitting in a chiar near my baby's bed. I found this behaviour quite inappropriate. It's like she took advantage of the situation to spend alone time with my baby. Moreover they're jealous of the fact that after giving birth my relation with my mom and sisters got stronger and we help each other a lot when it comes to taking care of our children (my sisters have also small kids, one is also an OB nurse, and they've been providing me with advice and help since I got pregnant. This doesn't mean I dont let my in-laws meet the baby, they see her once a week, almost every Sunday, and always have their chance to hold her, etc. It's just that for the time being I don't feel comfortable with them babysitting or spending alone time with my daugther. Moreover, they were mean to me in the past. They never inquire after my health when I was pregnant. At the 36th week of pregnancy I got kidney colic and spent four days at the hospital and never visited or gave me a ring to see how I was. When my beautiful baby girl arrived they were the first to get to the hospital....I might be overreacting, maybe it's hormonal change, but I needed to vent.