mother dealing with court

Crystal - posted on 08/12/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )

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I've been going through family court with my son's father for over a year. He's a very dangerous man who has put hands on me when I was pregnate and even after. I agreed with court to do 50-50 with the father. The father shot his own self recently while my 1yr old was in the same house. I showed court and there not using anything against him. He's always late on meeting me or never shows and when he does show my son is covered in cheese from eating cheetos puffs for breakfast. My son's father doesn't follow court order on anything,I don't even have a stable number to get ahold of him and he's blocked me on all social media. My son's father was recently arrested again for gun charges and is currently serving only 2month which I don't understand. I went an applied for temp full custody until our court but the judge didn't grant me is and gave us our court date which she decided to do it 2weeks after my babiesdsd gets out of county. I've showed court everything from pic,screenshots,recordings,voice mails nots,police reports,even cps eont hell me and there still not using anything else against him and won't give me my full custody! I have a clean record no tickets or anything what else can I possibly do to prove he's a danger to our son?

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Michelle - posted on 08/13/2016

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I agree that you need a lawyer.
You need to present things effectively and it doesn't sound like you can do that. Your posts here are all over the place and it's very hard to decipher what you are saying in most of them.

Jodi - posted on 08/12/2016

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But are they actually providing him with unsupervised visitation? It is unusual for a court to remove all custody form a parent, because even if he is a total dick, he can have some say over medical, education and other major decisions, but visitation is a different matter. Does he get unsupervised visits? DId you push for ONLY sole custody, or did you address supervised visitation?

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Crystal - posted on 08/12/2016

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Well I'm gna get a lawyer because thats really my only option amd giving up isn't an option when u have kids. Thank u everyone I know its confusing but that how the system is going about things when all I want to do is us be civil about our son

Jodi - posted on 08/12/2016

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No offence intended, but if you are representing yourself, and you are doing it in the same way your posts present here (which are a little confusing) this might be why you are not succeeding. Lawyers aren't necessarily a waste of money - they are trained to help you present your case. A lawyer will know exactly what you need to be able to have greater success in your petition AND they have the skills to present it in a far more coherent manner than I would suggest you have.

Crystal - posted on 08/12/2016

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No I have no lawyer I don't wna waste a lot more money then I already am and they don't do anything like how they are now.

Ev - posted on 08/12/2016

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If he is doing the things the courts are asking of him that may be why he is not getting into dire straights over the custody/visitation issues you guys have. But a lot of people have perfect records but that does not mean they have custody over the other parent. I did not have custody. I shared joint custody with my ex husband but he had primary care. ANd yes, they are starting to let dads have more options of custody.

Crystal - posted on 08/12/2016

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Believe me I say the same exact thing. There not using anything against him and I have a clean record and everything. Idk what its gna take for them to see this. The system is so messed up I don't even know how he keeps getting out of jail even though he's on probation. He's taking domestic violence classes and everything. He had warrants and kept lying to the mediator and she caught him in lots of lies. I've tried everything. Cps won't even help me with anything. Now when he gets out I have to give him his week with my son before we have court. They favor fathers

Ev - posted on 08/12/2016

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I am not saying this to make make you upset but to me a lot of things do not make sense like how he has all these criminal charges for guns and being in a gang and shot himself but he still has unsupervised visits if you have proved him dangerous to be around.

Crystal - posted on 08/12/2016

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He gets 50-50 unsupervised I pushed for full custody. This is the 2nd time he's gotten arrested for guns and he's gang affiliated the judge told him if he gets arrested one for time for guns he was gna lose his son. I've showed proof of everything that he always has a gun and he has real bad anger issues.I can deal with him being a dick towards me I'm fine with that I made the choice of dealing with him for the next 18yrs but him being a very unfit father is what I'm not going to deal wit . He can't keep a job and is now expecting his 3rd child with his 3rd babies mom and she supports all of them plus her kids. But I pay child support. I do my part as a parent and I work with him on everything. He won't let me know when he takes me son to the hospital or anything I find out weeks later through a friend. There's no communication at all

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