Susan - posted on 07/28/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )
A few years ago my mother in law got upset with me and my husband because we did not bring our visiting niece to a family function. Our niece was 13 and did not want to go as she was not familiar with that side of the family. She decided to spend the day with her moms brother and that family. Her parents allowed it... we could not do anything more. We get to the party and you can feel the chill from her. Towards the end of the party she approaches me and only me. She points her finger and me and gives demands. I calmly walk away and tell my husband it is time to leave. He saw her waving her finger at me and confronted her. When she didn't like that she told him to go F''' himself. That was in June. In November I decided to be the better person and extend the olive branch - this was of course my husbands mother. I sent her flowers with a note and she threw them away. We did not speak for about 2 years. During these two years she bad mouthed me to everyone in the family and friends. She was called out and caught in many lies with regard to her stories and she did not like that. She made no attempt to see her 3 grandchildren. All she had to do was pick up the phone and call her son and apologize to him and to me. She did not. Fast forward to March 2 years later and my husband's father dies suddenly. This is the man his mother cheated on! She shows up for the wake and proceeds to spend the entire 4 hours there. She spoke about how he was her first love and totally showed no respect to his grieving widow. It was slowly after this that she began to break my husband down. I did the right thing and sent an invitation to my sons communion and her and her husban (the man she cheated with) came. Slowly but surely she has come back.... she has never apologized to me but I have been civil and allowed her in my home. Now, she wants my daughter to sleep over he house. I asked my husband if we cannot do this and he freaked out on me. He said he was giving me the courtesy of asking me but his children will sleep at his mothers. I said, can you just give me this one thing. I have been very nice to her, allowed her back in my house after lying and bath mouthing me without any type of apology or remorse. He said it's his mother and he was not having this conversation.
How and what should I do. I am sick to my stomach that my husband allows his mother to do this to "HIS FAMILY".