Elisha - posted on 03/25/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
I quite like my mother in law, we get along very well I think and I always liked spending time with her. Recently she stayed with us for a few days as it would bring her closer to work (she travels frequently) and I believe she has a very inaccurate impression of how we run our house, and even worse, it's a negative one!
My husband works shift, and I have our daughter all day every weekend alone. Because he has more time in the morning and two days off in the middle of the week while I never get a real day off, he agreed that he would get our daughter ready every morning so I don't have to worry about it. He also hates making lunches, so I agreed to make his lunch for him if he would save some time for me by making me breakfast. I believe we run things pretty equally, we both work hard and we get our breaks in different ways. Two of the days my MIL stayed were his days off, she saw him running around to get our daughter ready and making breakfast for me while I relaxed and took my time. On her way out the door one morning, she turned to my husband and told him he was the "bitch of the house".
I've always had a strong personality, but that statement hurt in a way I didn't think was possible, I don't think I henpeck my husband or whip him around. He's a very good father and helps out more than most men, and I've always been a little scared that somebody would suggest he's whipped even though I consider the notion that men aren't good caretakers and home makers ridiculous. I don't feel I can talk to her about this, as it was a private comment made to my husband with me out of earshot...but I don't want her to have this impression that I lounge around and he jumps when I say so. Should I try to correct the impression somehow, or leave it alone since it's not my problem what other people think? It bugs me like crazy to know that she thinks less of me because of 3 days that weren't our norm.