MaryAnn - posted on 06/28/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )
Surely when things arent going smoothly, the mother in law would take the side of the husband.
However. She is trying to convince him he is being manipulated and emotionally abused AND to stick it out because thats what's right for our unborn child.
The biggest problem in my marriage is that even after being reminded (and frankly nagged) my husband is not doing the grown up things he needs to do. He forgets to pay the bills on time. He forgets to pay parking tickets on time. He forgets to get on his ex's case about getting legal paperwork for my step daughter, or figuring out when she wants access again and how its going to happen. He forgets abouy his doctors appointments, he claims he's having anxiety problems due to sleep deprivation (straight midnight shifts).
MIL resents that I do not do these things for him. Husband resents that im angry he doesnt do these yhings. He resents that i tell him there's no excuse.
MIL is moving closer and keeps insisting she is going to help. Its making me very uncomfortable because i cant see a reason he wouldn't set appropriate boundaries with her. He doesnt with his ex, he doesnt with his daughter... did i mention he is parenting from guilt?
He never "forgets" to organize his hobbies. What he needs is for someone to tell him to man up and just get his shit together... not for his mom to move in because his wife refuses to mother him.
:/ She is the expert... she does have five ex husbands.
Anyone have any advice for coping with overbearing mother in laws? Particularly delusional ones?