Heather - posted on 02/06/2014 ( no moms have responded yet )
My husband and I and our 4 month old son live with his parents. We are currently in the process of renovating our own place. I'm very grateful that they are letting us live here but I feel completely imprisoned :( I'm tired of the unwanted advice thrown my way every single day! I've tried standing up for myself and my son numerous times to my mother-in-law but she doesn't listen and basically it's all her way. My in-laws are old school European which is fine but my husband is the youngest and child-rearing has come a long way from 33 years ago. She constantly says something is wrong with my son, for example, he has my head shape and she says he has a pumpkin head and it's not right. His doctor has confirmed at every appointment that his head is perfectly shaped, my mil also says something is wrong with his feet, which the doctor has confirmed are perfectly fine. When my son is fussy she constantly says to him what is the matter with you or something is wrong with him, he only is fussy with her. Basically I'm told everyday that he shouldn't do this or don't do that or something! My husband just says oh well she raised 3 sons, well my mother raised 3 daughters and is raising 2 grandsons and she would never say something is wrong with my son. He's 4 months has meet and exceeded most of the age appropiate milestones. My son and I never leave the house currently due to the weather and if we do I'm told I'm stupid because it's cold. Both of my in-laws are retired so it constant, her more than him! Yesterday mine son received a exersaucer/jumperoo as a gift from cousins, my mil says don't put it together you should return it, first off my son has a playmat and small toys that is all he has to keep him entertained, I said he'll enjoy it, the whole time I'm putting it together she's making comments he's too small or not smart enough to know how to play in there. My little guy is 17lbs and 26 1/2 in, he's perfectly fine in the exersaucer/jumperoo! But to top all this off my husband's nephew is 5 months older, so there is the comparison thing going on too! My nephew has 3 playmats, 1 exersaucer, 1 jumperoo, 2 swings, 1 bouncer, and numerous other toys and my mil sees nothing wrong with that. Plus when my little guy was born at the hospital when family came to visit my mil wouldn't let anyone hold him because my nephew was held a lot and cried constantly and she believes it's because he was held too much in the hospital!! My parents live over 1500 miles away and when they came for a visit my mil told my mother to not hold the baby, could you imagine traveling that far to see your grandchild and be told not to hold him, my mother politely said I only get 3 days with him so I'm going to hold him a ton! I could go on and on about more stuff but I just want to vent. Basically I'm at a breaking point here, any advice would be helpful. Thanks in advance!!