Mother in law tells my daughter I don't love her

Carolina - posted on 02/09/2015 ( 4 moms have responded )

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Hi mommies I've been reading all pf your comments for a while trying to find answers to my own problem. My relationship with my inlaws has beed bumpy since my daughter now 2 years old was born. My MIL always wanted to be the center of attention would come visit every single day without announcing her visit would take the baby out of the house without asking for permission or even letting us know and would not give her to me if I asked to hold her because she was crying and this would go on for hours. These two years have been tough but I've reached a new low. Last week I said "mommy loves you" to my daughter and she responded no mommy doesn't love me daddy loves me granny loves me and grandpa loves me. (My MIL had visited the day before unannounced obviously) I thought that was odd so i asked whu do you think thos and she said: "granny told me" she kept repesting this and even went on to tell the nanny later that day. Three days later she said the same thing and then when i got the courage to ask her what else her granny said she answered: "that mommy is bad" I'm really worried my husband is very close to his familiy and we see them constantly. I'll appreciate anything you can tell me.

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Raye - posted on 02/13/2015

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You have to put your foot down and limit the contact your MIL has with your daughter. Your husband should be on your side, as he is supposed to be your partner. Tell him he either gets involved to tell his mother to act appropriately or you will get a restraining order against her so she will not have access to your child.

Michelle - posted on 02/12/2015

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Unfortunately, you can't change people. The only option would be to move away from them so you don't have to see them as often.

Carolina - posted on 02/09/2015

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I haven't told my husband this last part because he has always ended up siding with his parents or saying my mother is like a child you just have to put up with her. He sets zero limits and once even said Inhad to let them donwhatever they wanted FIL and MIL with my daughter. I'm also afraid he'll dismiss it and say my daughter fabricated it or even worse I know my MIL will deny it and maybe even make me the bad guy. She has given her her wallet to play with and she denies it to my face although I've caught her doing it. She also denied playing a game with her where she would hit the doll and call her stupid and I told my husband an to my face she said that was a lie. My SIL was also present and when I confronted her she said oh well ok bit it's just a game whatever it's not like she'll learn from that. My SIL is a preschool teacher! Whenever i say I don't like something she'll trow a fit and go crying to her hisband and daughter and say lies like I'm the bad guy.

Michelle - posted on 02/09/2015

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What does your husband say about this?
If he is agreeing with his Mother then I would be running for the hills. He needs to cut the apron strings and tell his Mother she can't say things like that to your daughter. He also needs to set boundaries about her coming over unannounced and doing whatever she wants.
If he's not going to do any of that then you need to step in and limit the amount of time your MIL has with your daughter. Let your MIL that until she can show you some respect and not say nasty things to your daughter about you then she won't be left alone with her.
You have every right to limit your MIL seeing your daughter if she is a negative person in her life.

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