Sara - posted on 06/02/2011 ( 94 moms have responded )
What do I do about my mother-n-law who comes over my house and move things around without my permission without ringing her neck? My husband put her in check for it. She did it when I was'nt around and when my husband asked her what she was doing she had the nerve to say "it does'nt belong there". She likes to go guilt trips on my only child husband. Always asking him for money and he does say "no" most of the time but we were homeless for years and are just now getting back on our feet so. Anyway, anyone else going through something like this. Been married for 13 years.
Thanks agian for all your feedback. I just wanted to say that I do not hate my MIL. I would just like basic respect just as anyone else does. She is moving two states over come Monday. She has been planning this for over a year now. Something else happened with her and i this past weekend and I handled my self in a respectful calm way. Basically explaining to her that you just can't show up to peoples door with out notice and think that you can come in. She asked me was she family and I said yes but that right now was not a good time for her to come in and that I wish she would respect that. She told my husband that she thinks I'm keeping her from seeing her grandchildren and some other things I don't want to get into. I am not trying to keep her form seeing her grandchildren. I would just like for her to respect me and my husband and our home and how we decide to raise our family. Our oldest son is fighting PDD-NOS (a form of autism) and he is on a c/gluton free diet and we have a 5 month old son as well. She recently tool our oldest out and decided to bring him home an hour after the time we stated. It is challenging enough taking care of him let alone having to deal with making sure he goes to bed at a decent time.
Reading some of the things that other mothers and daughters are going through makes me think what I have always thought about life and that is, is that it could be worse. Still respect is respect. And I do understand it is hard for some mothers to except even if thier child is 30 plus years old that they are grown and have their own lives to live and to develop a different type of relationship with their children. I went through that with my parents and I have a great adult relationship with my parents. I still honor them as my mom and dad but the relationship had to change and mature in order to have a healthy relationship now becuase I am married and have children of my own now. My husband comes first and then my children and then my parents and so forth.