Tammy - posted on 09/22/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )
My husband has a child with a woman who he never dated. This woman had sex with him when he passed out on his sister's couch. He's never wanted a relationship with her. She proceeded to chase him and stalk him, even moving two hours to be closer to him, next door to his parents. She always held the cards with the child telling him what he could do and couldn't and he went along with it rather than have conflict. Now his daughter is 8, we're married. I have two grown children so this isn't my first rodeo. She got very mad at him and told him what a horrible dad he is. He exerted his rights and has been getting his daughter every other weekend and has always paid child support. Well now that his daughter and him are close she dropped a bomb starting she is moving back home two hours away which puts a financial hardship on us as his vehicle is not very good and he's worried about driving it that much because it could break down. Plus the gas money. We live paycheck to paycheck. This will be an extra two hundred a month in gas. He pays 165 every week in child support. We will have to probably fix his jeep but don't have the money. She won't tell him where to pick up his daughter when plans change.. She says it is his responsibility to find out where his daughter is if not at the regular place. He told her it is her responsibility to inform him when plans change so he knows where to pick her up. She is trying to create drama. She tells me he is evil and doesn't want his influence on her daughter. Our fear is she will make plans on his weekend so the visits will slowly fade away, break him. She told me she has stopped all communication with him and that's the way she wants it. So I understand his fear because I think she probably will alienate his daughter from him. I told her she has to communicate with him, the daughter needs them to fix this nonsense. It's not about either of them, it should be about the daughter. She will talk to me because she doesn't want to talk to him, I've told her this is between them. I'm very much torn because I knew she was different when I met her. You could tell she's a Lil off... Missing a few screws. No normal woman has sex with a man who is passed out, if that was a woman is called rape. He does resent her. She tried all these years to get with him. She told his dad she's loved him since age 18. She's gone to counseling over him, it's crazy because never have they dated. He always told her he didn't want her. She wouldn't give up. She worked her way into his family and friends... He really went thru some stuff because of all she's done to him. We don't have money for an attorney... What can we do?