Mother sharing daughter with another women.

Tara - posted on 01/27/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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I am upset that I have to share my daughter with another women.I know this is just me being jealous,but I don't know how to overcome this.

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Erin - posted on 01/27/2012

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How old is your daughter? And what is the relationship to the woman you are "sharing" her with? Stepmother she is close to, mother-in-law that she gets along well with? An aunt that does special things with her? There are going to be lots of women in the course of your daughter's lifetime that she will be close to. That doesn't change the fact that you are the one who bathed her, fed her, wiped her tears after she fell down. Deal with your feelings of jealousy and choosing not to act on them.

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Groovy Girl - posted on 01/29/2012

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Tara-Lyn,

I don't know what to say about Veronica's comments but RUDE!. That is your baby and yes its an adjustment, one which i am sure you will figure out one day. I am not in your situation and have always felt it would be so hard to be in those shoes. So, keep your cool and maybe sometime soon you will feel differently about her. It is probably a process, that just might take a little longer for some people. As long as this lady is NOT the reason u and your ex divorced i'm sure things will work themselves out. You do not need to " Grow up" You are human and you will get there. Good Luck.

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2012

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count it a blessing your child has two mummy.That is not a real issue. Put yourself in the other woman's place and tell me what would you want the child to call you. If it is bothering you so much why don't you asked them to have her call the lady aunty.

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2012

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Learn to share. This is not about the child it is about your ego. You are only using the child as a front. Spend sometime by yourself and just the child alone for a month without other people and see if you can manage.

Veronica - posted on 01/28/2012

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you need to grow up. if this other woman is not hurting your child what is the big problem. No one person can grow their child without the help of others. other people have to assist in one way or another. Stop being mean and learn to share. You should be glad that someone is sharing your child with you.

Julie - posted on 01/28/2012

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How re you sharing your daughter with another woman?



Did you ex. remarry?



Get to know this other woman and talk about your core values... and let her share her thoughts.



If this is a situation that is Court Ordered, do your best to be friends and work through issues before they become bigger and cause friction - your child will be the one hurt the most -

Krista - posted on 01/27/2012

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It can be tricky. As mothers we always want to know that we're #1 in our children's hearts. But look at it this way: children who have multiple siblings don't have to "share" their mom's love. Love multiplies, it doesn't divide. If you had another child, would you only love your daughter half as much? Of course not.



So even if your daughter has some love and affection for your ex's girlfriend, it takes nothing away from her love for you. Seriously.



My own parents are split, and I got along really well with my dad's new wife. I don't doubt that my mom was a bit jealous, but she never said anything. And it took nothing away from my love for my own mom. In fact, I consider myself lucky. I STILL get along with my dad's (now ex) wife...she's a lovely person. And I'm closer than ever with my mom.



Just try to keep reminding yourself that as long as this woman is kind to your child, then that's all that matters.

Kaitlin - posted on 01/27/2012

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chocolate? I guess in the end, you are the mother. You have history with her. I don't know how serious your ex's girlfriend is, but she may not last, but she may. Erin had some good things to say- feeling this way is normal, but it's how we act that makes a difference.

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