Sarah - posted on 06/18/2013
I have three kids and do daycare. From my experience 16 months is too early....even 2 yrs can be too early. You child will let you know when they are ready. It is like walking you can encourage them, but until they are ready there is nothing you can do to make it come sooner. Sometimes if you start too early it can actually make the process longer. I have one that I watch now that her parents started her at 22 months. She was not ready....was showing signs, but they jumped too fast in wanting to train her. She is now 3 1/2 yrs old and they are still working on training her and she usually still has at least one accident a day. If they would have slowed down and just followed her lead I think she would have been fully trained by now. My daughter just turned 2 yrs old. She likes to sit on the potty when I go and she likes to wipe and flush, but that is it. She is not ready for the next step yet. She is showing interest and signs, but I am following her lead. She will let me know what she is ready for and when by do the things she is ready for.
If she is showing interest, it is okay to let her explore the idea, but if she is not actually showing definite interest in it, just leave it for later because you won't make any progress.
Their bladders mature at different rates, and when her body is ready, her mind will start giving her ques and you will see a definite interest in learning to use the potty from her. If you start too soon, no matter how hard she tries, she'll fail, and that will set her up for a bigger struggle with it when she finally is truly ready.
If you think she's interested, just get her a little potty to put on the floor in your bathroom and let her know that she's free to use it whenever she likes. She'll probably sit on it fully clothed for a while, then eventually move on to trying to potty on it, but going to sit on it at the wrong times. Eventually, she'll learn what her body feels like before she needs to go, and actually go at the right times. This way, there is no pressure, no accidents, and no failure. This is the way I trained J, and he trained very quickly. He was just over 2 years when I put the potty in our bathroom. It sat there ignored for about 2 months, then once he decided to try it, he was fully trained within a week and we switched to big boy unders. He did have the occasional accident if he was very involved in his play, or if we were too far from a bathroom for him to hold it, but overall, I can only remember about 5 accidents.
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