Latonia - posted on 09/05/2016 ( 11 moms have responded )
So glad I found this site, I've been going bonkers!
Nearly 5 yrs ago, I met my husband (1 yr AFTER his belated was deceased). I walked in to a broken family, (2 girls: 8 and 10) and a my husband was also raising his stepson then 14.
Fast forward.....the first year was great...the moment my husband proposed to me, the 14 yr old stepson turned into a disrespectful little b*&^$!d. The look on his face was of pure hate, he's now 19....he and I do not talk AT ALL. He eats, sleep and sh*t...that's it. He doesn't help out he says two phrases. "What's Up Dad?" or "I'm outside" My husband doesn't have any say or control all he does is sit there, stare at him and shake his head.
The girls are okay, typical...they call me Mommie (which I loatheeeeee; I hate it). The moment I tell them to do something, they typically do it but if they don't ..."I turn up"; when I do...they run to daddy and he does NOTHING.
The point here is, once we were married the deal was wait until he graduate from high school then we'll move; "just you and the girls". That NEVER happened. The boy got retained, my husband had back surgery so now I'm to sole provider and I'm stuck in the most horrific state; I mean coming in the house was wayyyyyy tooo overwhelming, this filthy nasty a** house, I just wanna take a torch to it....it's VERY BAD!!!! (THIS IS NOT the way we planned it). I thought ok, I'll move in, have 1 set of bills (mind you, my house and car was paid for; I own my own business and I had my own money saved), but bc I am so loving and giving (my family says I'm weak) but I started off buying them the world, clothes, shoes, groceries, plays, LOTS of vacations and I even bought my husband a Truck (CASH!) Now, he says I'm cheating on him, (who the hell does that? Think I'm going to invest in you and your kids; spend thousands of dollars to cheat on my investment? (Another headache for another day ladies)....fast forward, I want out. I recently STOPPED doing things for them bc as I keep saying I don't reward failure; why should I keep giving and giving and you guys can't do 1 thing I ask? I've NEVER asked my husband for anything except to MAKE THEM KEEP THE HOUSE CLEAN......I see tooth floss on the stairs, milk droppings all of the floors, can't find a single damn spoon or fork or bowl in the ENTIRE HOUSE so I now keep my stash of plastics.....you have crap floating in their toliets, they won't fold a damn shirt to save their lives they are all (including my husband) FILTHY!!!!!!! I'm not OCD but I would like to come home from work JUST ONCE in 5 years to a house that's clean. Twice, I've found caught my husband on craigslist (bast*rd!) I forgave him..... but he's on their again emailing prostitutes? "Damnit...again????!!! Really??? I'm so direspected here and I sold my house bc he wasn't working, I'm running out of money so fast bc my business is slow...and I just feel STUCK!!!!!! DEPRESSED, LONELY and just broken....I know I should leave but this is my 2nd marriage so I reallllllyyyy wanted this to work. Now, I stay in a 1 room that's clean and away form them. Now, I'm called "CRAZY" accused of having multiple personalities and the girls feel like they don't have to do any chores. If I get upset with them, he gets upsets with my and doesn't want to give me sex, he won't get them in control so when I say something, I'm crazy....I just want OUT bc I feel like I'm going to lose my mind.
Now, he's come into money from his back surgery and now the basta*d is saying, "you've been saying that you're getting an apartment for years....do it then...." Ungrateful B*sta*d.
I need a break, but I feel so guilty bc the yougest girl will cry until she sees me again and they've lost their BIO MOM but damn it! I shouldn't have to live in slum....it's really F'd up bc they don't give a crap about how this all affects me emotionally....5 years!!!!! I've had the SAME AND ONLY COMPLAINT...they will never change. Sick of seeing cake mix under the mattress, trash on the floors and they walk pass it like it's a f'n piece of furniture. The sink doesn't have a base it's just concrete. The microwave looks like someone vomited in it and they always want to feed me....I NEVER EAT bc if the house is disgusting the cooking is too. I've tried sooooooooooo many times to train them and clean but enough is enough damn it, I'm not Hazel.