Mothers who judge eachother? Your experience?

Melissa - posted on 04/26/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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What do you find is one of the biggest judgments us MOMS make to one another (privately or openly).

Keep an open mind, this will be based on your own personal experience since becoming a mother, but, I would like to hear what you have to share.

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I admit to being judgemental about food. I can't believe some of the shit that Mums will give their kids, especially in their school lunch boxes. I'm not too judgemental about anything else though, because everyone has different ways in which they live their lives. So a behaviour that I might find awful could actually be quite acceptable in the home of another. I do however, become judgemental of parents who let their kids do "whatever" and don't even make an effort to get off their butts and "parent" the children.

September - posted on 04/26/2012

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I hear that Melissa! I guess I forgot about toddler and tiaras...that show makes me want to puke! I can't even watch it.

Melissa - posted on 04/26/2012

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I think as parents we all have secretly judged. When I watch Toddlers & Tiaras show, I judge like crazy, I can't help it, and when I see them shoving sugar packets in their toddlers mouth to keep their energy up, .... well I can't help but find that gross. But I really try my best to not judge people because every one is so individual, yet I can't help sometimes secretly wonder about some of these reality shows!

September - posted on 04/26/2012

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The only things I really find myself being judgmental about without saying it aloud of course is discipline and food. I don't ever address any of this with parents themselves, their child their choice. I do try not to be judgmental but when I see a 1 year old sucking down a soda or getting a spanking I'm not thinking happy thoughts. I’ve never actually been judged myself however if I ever did I would defend myself if need be.

Kimberly - posted on 04/26/2012

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Oh where to start..... yes discipline is a big one, also old breast vs bottle, sleeping, routine, what you feed them, clothe vs disposable, working vs stay at home. It just goes on and on. The best example I have is when I was nursing my daughter, thats the first question people would ask me 'are you b/f" I'd say yes and they were like good on ya, then she got older and they would ask the same thing but the reaction would be 'oh so when are you stopping' then once I hit over a year it was like I was some kind of freak for still doing it!!! I felt I went from saint to sinners in a matter of months!! I then firmly started believing in " My body, my baby, my business" I make the choices I make cause they work for me, I dont agree with some things other mums do but thats up to them what they want to do.

Melissa - posted on 04/26/2012

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I can agree with a lot of what you wrote, the discipline thing is big, that's why sometimes I don't even want to go visit people because if my daughter acts up, I don't want to feel overwhelmed with a pointed finger when I use discipline.

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Discipline, no matter what you do, it is wrong. There are always those out there that will call you out on it and imply your an idiot for doing whatever type you choose to do.



Then comes the generalizations, ie all working moms care more about their career than their kids (it is bs). On the flips side it is all stay at home moms are lazy, rich, and have whinny spoiled clingy children (again bs).

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