Moving

Brittany - posted on 07/27/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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To explain a little before I ask for advice.. I have a son and am not with his father however am getting married to a member of the marine corps in December. His father and I were never married so I have had full custody and he has had visitation since my son was 1. My son is now 2. I am struggling to make a living and life to support my son and I and have a chance to make a great life with him and my fiancé. Currently I live in New York with my parents..however we are stationed in Hawaii, they provide housing, food, day care, schooling for the both of us, piano lessons for my son and gymnastics. They also have therapy if needed from the stress of the situation and the move. I have filed to have my full custody and to change visitation for the move but the father is unhappy with the concept.. He isn't saying he wants to stop us but he does want to of course see his son. I made a suggestion for 1 month per year and Christmas when we fly back for the holidays.. But he said no and asked for 6 months and holidays which is unacceptable.. When I offered 3 months and when we come home for Christmas to split the holiday he was still unhappy.. Any suggestions on what to do.. ? Anyone been through something similar? My fiancé and I want to have a baby and start our family but we can't if this is weighing over our heads..

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Raye - posted on 07/28/2015

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It's all well and good to say the father is "more than welcome to come to Hawaii whenever he can", however that is not economically feasible for many people. You're going 5000 miles away across the country and across an ocean. I think you're being a little unreasonable. It may be a better situation for your child, but you have to prove that in the court and let them decide the custody/visitation schedule.

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Brittany - posted on 07/27/2015

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Better life for my son to live in Hawaii in comparison to what is provided now

Brittany - posted on 07/27/2015

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He gets Monday's and Fridays 8:30-4:30..96 days per year .. If the move is granted I offered the same amount/more plus he'd get him overnight obviously.. I'm talking to a lawyer tomorrow however wanted to get some advice.. I suggested 3 months (90 days) and to come home with him on Christmas break. However he is more than welcome to come to Hawaii whenever he can plus whenever he can he can skype.. I'm trying to do what's best for my son along with keeping his father around my son as much as possible for the move to happen.. It can be proven to be severely

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 07/27/2015

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If the move will severely restrict his access, the court may not grant the move. If it is proven that the child would be better off staying, then adjustments will need to be made. This needs to be handled with your attorneys.

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