Brittany - posted on 07/27/2015 ( 26 moms have responded )
To explain a little before I ask for advice.. I have a son and am not with his father however am getting married to a member of the marine corps in December. His father and I were never married so I have had full custody and he has had visitation since my son was 1. My son is now 2. I am struggling to make a living and life to support my son and I and have a chance to make a great life with him and my fiancé. Currently I live in New York with my parents..however we are stationed in Hawaii, they provide housing, food, day care, schooling for the both of us, piano lessons for my son and gymnastics. They also have therapy if needed from the stress of the situation and the move. I have filed to have my full custody and to change visitation for the move but the father is unhappy with the concept.. He isn't saying he wants to stop us but he does want to of course see his son. I made a suggestion for 1 month per year and Christmas when we fly back for the holidays.. But he said no and asked for 6 months and holidays which is unacceptable.. When I offered 3 months and when we come home for Christmas to split the holiday he was still unhappy.. Any suggestions on what to do.. ? Anyone been through something similar? My fiancé and I want to have a baby and start our family but we can't if this is weighing over our heads..