Moving from my daughter's father home and he says i cant take her?? what to do??

Jodianne - posted on 01/28/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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I finally have the courage to be done with my childs father. She is 4 months old and i jus want out of the relationship. He is verbally abusive n after 4 years I have reached my breaking point. We constantly argue every day about whos taking her. I told him I will take him to court to make tht decision to scare him, he keeps telling me i cnt take her n he will not allow it. I really would not want it to get to a point where it gets physical. I dnt knw what to do????

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 01/29/2012

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Go to court for sure. But in the mean time, if you need help actually leaving the house, call the cops for help. Let them know you are leaving with your child, and you are afraid your husband will beat you when you do. Tell them the truth, so you have people there to protect you. Get other witnesses, family etc that can help you. Do it ASAP. You should be proud of yourself for taking such a huge step. Good luck!

Michelle - posted on 01/28/2012

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Are you still breastfeeding? If you are it is another reason NOT to leave her there.



He is probably hoping that scaring you with the threat of getting your daughter you will stay. Find a safe place for you and your Daughter and call his bluff. At this stage in life she needs her primary caregiver and I'm assuming that has been you from birth.



Goodluck and please find somewhere safe to go.

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~Jennifer - posted on 01/30/2012

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...if he's threatened not to 'allow you to leave', go to the court, file for a restraining order, and he won't be able to come near you to stop you.

Sarah - posted on 01/30/2012

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I would call the police and seek guidance there. He won't "allow" you? This could be construed as a threat. Also go to court and get an order. But if you are afraid it could go violent, take her to a family or friend or shelter and notify the police. They will provide protection. Good luck!

Tinker1987 - posted on 01/29/2012

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He doesnt get a say,a child needs their mother, you need to go to court and get custody agreements.

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