Mum to be i really need relationship advice

Jasmine - posted on 12/29/2013 ( no moms have responded yet )

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Hi my name is Jasmine, i am 19 and i'm 23 weeks pregnant with twin girls. I am due on the 2nd of April and I really can’t wait to see my baby girls. There is just one thing that is really stressing me out and that is the father of my children. He was willing to stand by me and be there for his babies but something has changed, he has changed and I don’t know what I can do. He used to call me and text me all the time and wanted to see me at the weekends but now I hardly hear from him. I have to do all the calling and texting he just doesn’t seem to be there for me like he said he would be. I don’t know what has changed but I am really stressed out over this. We have been dating since May and I fell pregnant pretty fast and he seemed to be happy telling everyone that he was going to be a daddy for the first time so I can’t understand why he is acting the way he is with me. He came down over the Christmas holidays and stayed a couple of days with me and then after two nights he decided that he wanted to go to his friend’s house not far away from me to have a couple of drinks. I didn’t mind him going to his friends having a drink or going out with them but over the last month he has been going to this friend’s house a lot more than he normally would. Last two times I drove him there and took him back home again and he doesn’t live just around the corner he lives 36 mile away from me. Every time he comes down to me he planes to just stay a couple of days and then heads to his mates for a couple of days and texts me to pick him up. The whole time we have been seeing each other he has yet once to get a train down to see me but yet I got the train most of the time to see him and I still get the train to see him which is £20 up and down. He came down 5 days before Christmas there he stayed two days with me and two days with his mate and had to be home for Christmas day which was fair enough I went up and lifted him and on Christmas evening I left him home again and everything was good between us. so on Christmas day I didn’t really hear from him till the evening time when he phoned me asking what I was doing the next day and if I would have the car, I said I’m not doing anything why what’s up? He said that his sisters little boy had cut himself and that he need to go and get plastic surgery in the morning around half 9 but it was away in Belfast. Which is a good 2 hours’ drive for me I said well I should be able to do it which means I would have had to leave my house at 7 am, everything was ok until the next day when I got up and phoned to say I’m up going to start the car and that. When I looked outside the ground was frozen solid and there was ice all over my car, there was no way that it was going to start because I’ve been having problems with the car in the past. So I called him back to tell him that my car wouldn’t start and the roads are too icy for me to drive on I would end up crashing. He started to get dry with me and making me feel bad that about the wee boy and said that’s fine text them and let them know that you are not able to take them up and they will have to pay a taxi £50 up and down, I’ll give them whatever money I have like but don’t think it will be enough. I felt really bad that I couldn’t do anything to help them so I asked him if he was still coming up for dinner later and he said no I don’t want you to come out in the bad weather conditions but before he didn’t care about that. I said that’s ok I didn’t hear from him till later that night when he called me twice and sent me a text saying cheers for calling me back I rang him and he said I was waiting on you to call me back cause I was going to come up for dinner, like how was I meant to know after him saying he wasn’t coming up. That was the Thursday night and I didn’t hear from him till I rang him on Friday afternoon asking what he was up to he said he was heading to the shop to get food and that he was going to head back home and chill ect and then he asked me what I was doing and I said I was in the town getting food. He asked me what town I was in I said my hometown and then he said awryt I thought you meant Antrim I said no what makes you think I would be there he said you never know. I thought this was weird because he never said that to me before he said I’ll call you later on sure I said right ok. Later came and I called him about 7 and I got no answer and then I got a text saying what’s up I texted him back saying what’s wrong you can’t answer and then I got this text saying tell you later can’t talk my wee bro has been taken into hospital because he hasn't been eating and needs to be fed through a tub. The way the text was that he was at the hospital and couldn’t talk he never said that he was waiting on a call from his dad. I started to think to myself he is lying and why could he not just answer the phone 5 minutes to explain all this to me instead of texting. For someone that has no money on their phone they were still able to text a lot. So I never heard from him from the rest of the night and I was getting really annoyed so I called him in the morning he answered I told him that this weird number was texting me last night and it was annoying me because I didn’t know who it was he said well sure ill check my phone and I’ll ask my bro about it I said ok and hang up. The more I started to think the more angrier I got and I called back an I told him that I was annoyed that he couldn’t answer the phone to me for 5 minutes and that he never even texted me back and then he started to get really cheeky with me saying aww I have no money and whatever money I have I have to save it and I couldn’t answer cause I was waiting on my dad to call me about my wee brother, then I just started to cry cause I know he was lying and he said what’s wrong sure if you want ill come up tomorrow and see you meet me in Coleraine I said why Coleraine he paused for a minute that’s when I said take it you’re at your mates house and he said yeah he got me a lift on Friday night which I know was a lie cause his m8 doesn’t know anyone that drives. He got the train down to his m8s cause I went on to his m8s fb and he had a comment up saying he was coming down at near 9 o’clock in the morning which means he lied to me about going home to chill when I called him on Friday. I’ll probably hear from him today because he needs a lift home but my phone is turned off but it will be interesting to see if he will contact me and if so I’ll know that he his only using me. I don’t know what the big attraction is in Coleraine if he is seeing someone else or whatever he didn't need to lie to me about it. He is really stressing me out that am scared I will lose my babies because of him. I really need advice because I really don’t know what to do in this situation.

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