My 1 month old cries because he wants to be held and rocked; bounced almost all the time and at night it's worse. I'm up all night bouncing and rocking him and laying him down over and over again. How can/do I lay him down without him waking right back up?

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Nikki - posted on 08/06/2012

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Yeah, I wouldn't let him cry it out. Maybe try a sleeping bag, have you tried patting him? Regardless, it won't last forever. I know it feels that way when you are suffering sleep deprivation but before you know it he will be going through another phase. Try and sleep when you can throughout the day, I really believe the old saying "sleep when they sleep"

Elfrieda - posted on 08/05/2012

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Uggh. I didn't even read your post until now because the first 3 months of my son's life were like that and I don't like remembering it. It was horrible. But it gets better when whatever was causing the colic goes away! It's not the baby's personality, it's something wrong with his intestines. My son is now a very easy-going and charming toddler, but he was a horrible newborn. I think he was in pain, poor thing.



But I do have some suggestions. One is that maybe the crib is cold compared to you, and that's why he wakes up when you put him down. If you drape a blanket over your back to heat up while you rock him to sleep, then it will be convenient to grab and put in the crib before you put him down on it. Or keep a fuzzy blanket for him to sleep on because that's warmer than a cold cotton sheet.



Another might be that he likes being all bundled up and held, and when you put him down his arms fly up and startle him awake. Get one of those sleep sacks or swaddle him.



Another idea: sometimes it helped my son sleep if he was all curled up over his stomach, and then in a sling at my front. I had one of those that's just like a double sash, and he liked to sleep in the fold. Sometimes. And then you can sit down on a recliner and sleep that way for a while. But be careful of his neck, it shouldn't fold too far down or he won't be able to breathe properly.



Something to make the bouncing easier on your body: get one of those big balls, some people call them birthing balls, exercise balls, or officechair balls. Anyway, it costs less than 20 dollars. Sit on there and it's easier to keep good posture and just moving your legs a bit makes you bounce up and down quite hard, which I think settles the baby's stomach.



When he stops crying constantly you'll be able to tell if he's spoiled or not. I think probably right now he's just in pain. My son was about 5 or 6 months old when I realized he was a bit spoiled for attention, but it's something you can deal with at that time, you don't have to worry about it now. I think to actually "spoil" a child you need to coddle them for 5 or 6 YEARS, not 5 or 6 months.

Dove - posted on 08/05/2012

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I spent the first 5 months of my son's life 'lying' propped up in the middle of my bed with him upright on his belly on me. It was the only way we both slept. He had reflux and could not sleep lying flat until he was about 6 months old.

Nikki - posted on 08/05/2012

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I agree he probably has colic, speak with your health care provider. Have you tried wrapping him and patting him to sleep in his bed?

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Nikki - posted on 08/07/2012

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I meant pat him while he is in bed, just how Stiflers mum said :)

Stifler's - posted on 08/06/2012

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Pat him while he's laying down and slow it down, leave your hand on him, slowly take it off when you know he's asleep.

Jackie - posted on 08/06/2012

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Yes using the bathroom is the only time I leave. That is why I said for no more than 5 minutes.

Dove - posted on 08/06/2012

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There is no way he's spoiled at a month old. My advice is to do whatever it takes so that you can both get the sleep you need. If sleeping on you works, do it. If sleeping in his swing works, do it.

He's brand new and has an entire 'scary' world to figure out. His first lesson (other than eating...which is 'mostly' instinct) is to learn that mom and dad are people that he can trust with anything. Leaving him to cry will not help accomplish that.

I know you said you don't leave him to cry for more than 5 minutes. I just want to make that as clear as possible for anyone who may read your post and be thinking that a one month old is at all capable of being spoiled. He's not. :)

I wouldn't leave him to cry at all at this age. Yeah, if you have to pee (as an example) and he's crying... that's one thing, but to intentionally walk away from him while he's crying JUST to 'let him cry'... not a good idea.

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Colic :<
for me i spend her first 4 months holding her against my shoulder....i think it gets worst when you put baby on a horizontal position, i tried everything but every bay's different...it just goes away, a friend of mine gave me one wise advise..or phrase...the first 100 days are the worst....then it gets magically better, at least you can count the days and have a "final" date.. gives you hope, stay strong and talk and if you can, leave her one or two hours just to breathe..it's healthy for you and for baby, to have you in good shape....pacifier helped also sometimes, it's so sad to see them suffering and knowing u can;t just help :

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Colic :<
for me i spend her first 4 months holding her against my shoulder....i think it gets worst when you put baby on a horizontal position, i tried everything but every bay's different...it just goes away, a friend of mine gave me one wise advise..or phrase...the first 100 days are the worst....then it gets magically better, at least you can count the days and have a "final" date.. gives you hope, stay strong and talk and if you can, leave her one or two hours just to breathe..it's healthy for you and for baby, to have you in good shape....pacifier helped also sometimes, it's so sad to see them suffering and knowing u can;t just help :

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Colic :<
for me i spend her first 4 months holding her against my shoulder....i think it gets worst when you put baby on a horizontal position, i tried everything but every bay's different...it just goes away, a friend of mine gave me one wise advise..or phrase...the first 100 days are the worst....then it gets magically better, at least you can count the days and have a "final" date.. gives you hope, stay strong and talk and if you can, leave her one or two hours just to breathe..it's healthy for you and for baby, to have you in good shape....pacifier helped also sometimes, it's so sad to see them suffering and knowing u can;t just help :

Jackie - posted on 08/06/2012

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Yes I hold, pat, rock, and bounce all at once. Lol my shoulders and wrist are killing me. Lol but your right it will get better. Thanks. I needed that reminder.

Jackie - posted on 08/06/2012

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I meant to put I dont think he has colic because he just had a doctor's appointment. His dad and I always try to keep him swaddled but he fights his way loose. I rarely leave the room and let him cry but when I do it's no longer than five minutes because I'm afraid he'll feel abandoned. I just cant do it. Is it possible for him to feel abandoned?

Cherish - posted on 08/05/2012

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You could let him cry for awhile...he will probably get tired and go back to sleep

Jackie - posted on 08/05/2012

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He has a swing. He'll stay in it every once in a while. I'm thinking he's just spoiled even though I've read that he's too young to be considered "spoiled".

Jaime - posted on 08/05/2012

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Is it possible he has colic? I've also read a bit about the period of purple crying and something else that's referred to as 'the witching hour'. I'm not overly familliar with the last one, but it's worth reading up on.

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