My 11 year old daughter is boy crazy and i have no idea how to handle it?

Gifty - posted on 01/09/2014 ( 1 mom has responded )

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Please, if there are any moms out there that have gone through this or are going through it please help me. I'm in such shock that i'm dealing with this so early. I'm beyond scared, I'm angry as hell, I'm confused. Because I know that I want to always have that relationship with my daughter to were she can come and talk to me about anything. I don't want there to be secret's between her and I but I feel there are so much already. I don't know how to talk to her anymore without yelling at her because i'm in such shock. I know how I was like when I was her age and I should be happy with what I'm dealing with because I was a very rebellious was I was here age. I can honestly say I put my mother through things. so with that I think I would have a lot more understanding for what she is going through and the fact that she did come to me and tell me that she has a crush on a boy in her class and he likes her too etc but I cant. I don't know how. she's my daughter its my job to protect her and make sure she is safe and she knows right from wrong. I love my daughter with every ounce of life in me but this situation is truly scaring me. please help!!!!! Thank you.

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Lori - posted on 01/09/2014

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My daughter is 11 also and has crushes and a "boyfriend" here and there. She and I have started discussing these things years ago. My thing that I tell her is PLEASE do not be in a rush to enter the grown up world. I know that a lot of her friends "make-out" with their boyfriends. Honestly the thought scares me to death!!! But I don't let it show and I talk reasonably with her about these things. Her and her friends are very comfortable talking about school and friend situations around me.
** Let her know that you think 11 is too young to have boyfriends. Tell her why. Not all the nitty gritty, but seriously mom, these kids are growing up fast. I think of how fast I grew up and we didn't have internet and the tv shows that are on now. The best thing is to collect yourself and make a practice speech in the mirror first. It may help you. Let her know how important and short TRUE childhood is. Encourage her to not let boys get in the way of her education and other activities. Monitor any electronic communications ( which should be regardless ) and let her keep the comfort of coming to talk to you. We can protect them by educating them and leaving the rest to prayer. This is our job. ;) Good luck mom.

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