Kris - posted on 06/16/2016 ( 1 mom has responded )
My name is Kris and I am a single mother to an 11 yr old girl. I love my daughter so much, in fact some days she is the only reason I have to wake up in the morning...
My daughter does not live with me, she loves with her gran & grandad in the same city as I do & she comes to me when ever she wants & set weekends. I have been divorced from a man she knew since she was 9 months old (She also misses our old life.. this I know- so i keep remind her about changes & lifes changes, trying to make her understand this is where we are & she has a right to feel this way, however change happens everyday & we can either move with it or allow what no longer is hold us back!) & her gran & grandad (He biological father parents) gives that sense of stability....
I am currently in a great relationship and He & my Kid gets along well. I get the sense she wants a BF because I have a BF. However I have also been contacted by her teacher informing me there is some kind of "Epidemic" between the boys & girls that they are separating the sexes to a great extent. They think its the hormones are out of control.
So when she asked me if she can have a BF I asked her if she know why she wants a BF, what she will do with her BF, who is the boy she is interested in, what does she think her dad & gran would say about this!
Her response to each question was "I don't know" .. I asked her to ask herself these question & answer them honestly to herself. I told her I'm not upset because she is human & that is the feling she is facing at this point.
The question is how do I answer her and not poush her away but be effective in my response to her. I am very happy he asked me because I would NEVER have asked my mum under any circumstance.
Please help with some advise especially from a mom who has gone through this already & those who can relate in advice & experience.
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I appreciate it... I appreciate you!