my 11 year old is being targeted by his 5th grade math teacher. she calls me for stupid things, like to tell me he needs supplies, she refuses to give him work, he has misplaced, she says to him under her breath, that he makes her sick, and the last straw was threatining to suspend him from pe class, over not turning in a warm up sheet. and if i never stepped in and helped him at home wuth his math, she would have let him fail, because to her a

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Medic - posted on 05/18/2012

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OMG.....parents having to help teach their own kids????The horror. You are your childs best teacher. At 11 it is HIS responsibility to remember his homework, it is HIS responsibility to pay attention in class and ask for help if he needs it, and it is HIS responsibility to own up to his actions. You seem like "that" mom that just swoops in to rescue their poor defenceless child. You keep bringing up that YOU had to teach him his math.....want a cookie...it is called parenting. If your son is not getting it in class he has to get it somewhere. I think you are blowing this a whole lotta outta porportion.

Sally - posted on 05/18/2012

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sorry but his 11 why does she have to tell you he needs pencils etc, why can he not.. Imagine what it would be like if she had half the class running of to get warm up papers etc. The biggest favour you can do your son is teach him to be organised, his life would be smoother.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/18/2012

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It sounds like it is time for a conference along with the principal present to get to the bottom of this. Don't go in defensive, go in to learn how to help maybe differently. Go in with an open mind to help fix the situation. Show them that you are indeed an involved parent, and you want your child to succeed. Good luck with this. It sounds like a tough situation. She should not be muttering anything under her breath about students, and that should certainly be address but in a matter of fact manner, and not in momma bear attack mode, which can be hard as hell not to do sometimes.

Sally - posted on 05/18/2012

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I don't mean to be nasty but maybe the fact that the teacher knows he is your world makes it differcult to talk to you. Maybe she fears being attacked. If there is a problem it is up to you to talk to the teacher and find out how to help your son. Please try and remember that this one person is there to teach a class room not just one person.

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Naila - posted on 05/19/2012

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I have tried to speak to her on the phone, and she keeps saying she will send a note home, I told her I haven't received any notes as if yet. She says she has been busy and will get them to me asap. The principal I have informed of everything as well, and I asked the principal to look at all the kids grades and see if she notices anything odd, she has told me they all are in the c average. So I am no teacher, but that seems low to me. And I gave continued to teach him at home, and since I have started, he has maintained a high b average. I an aware she has many other kids and a responsibility to them as well, and my sin is my responsibility, and I am his teacher first. Maybe I am looking too into it, it just seems like she is deliberately calling me for everything else except the issue at hand.

Jodi - posted on 05/19/2012

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How do you know all the kids are having trouble with this teacher? Is it possibly just a handful of students? Who tells you all the kids are not understanding? Maybe it is only a small minority. Which would be pretty typical. At that age, the differences in mathematical, logical and abstract abilities are fairly varied, due to the variety of maturity levels.



I'll be honest, in the past, when my son has had problems with his maths (and believe me, he HAS struggled, it isn't his strength), I have always spent time giving him extra tutoring. Often teachers have 25 or more students to teach. Unfortunately, that DOES mean that sometimes kids need the extra help at home (or some paid tutoring). It IS pretty normal to have to sometimes spend time teaching your kid at home, not only supervising their homework.



I CAN understand your frustration with the teacher not contacting you back, but you have mentioned that she called you twice this week about supplies. Did you attempt to discuss it on those phone conversations? When did you talk to the Principal about the matter?

Naila - posted on 05/18/2012

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Sally, the point is she doesn't have to call to tell me about supplies, and he has his stuff organized, her calls aren't he doesn't have any, but he needs more, in other words its un-necessary calls. Miss little miss, thank you for reading between the lines and seeing my issues with the situation. I don't think I am being impossible, but two calls in the same week, to say mh child needs more of this and that, is a bit ridiculous, why can't she use the sand energy and tell md he needs more help in this or that, not wait till HD is in danger of failing to say something. And I teach both lids regardless, and when I or anyone else explains the problem to him, hd gets it, so it's not just me.

Naila - posted on 05/18/2012

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It is hard to talk to a teacher who won't return letters or phone calls. And I am aware that she is there to teach many not just mine, but don't treat mine like he is a lost cause, of another problem child, because he is not. He has three teachers total, the other two have no problem with him, nor letting me know if he is falling behind, or need help with something, so why is she any different. And I am not saying she needs to call me every minute of every day, but if she can call me for supplies needs, she can call me for more important stiff as well. Thank god he is passing now, thanks to me teaching him at home, if your students all are intimidated by you, and they all say the same negative things about you as a teacher, and they all are having trouble in your class, there may be cause for concern.

Naila - posted on 05/18/2012

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its not all her fault, my child is to blame as well, but when he asked if he could retrieve the warm up paper from his homeroom, she then threatens to suspend him from gym class, even the principal agreed, that was a bit harsh and extreme. His grade only improved after I started teaching him at home, and if he gets a problem wrong, she says sarcastic comments under her breath, I know because other kids have told me, and I have asked her to call me, or write if there is certain thongs he needs extra help in, she has yet to call me on that, when she calls to tell me he needs more pencils or whatever and I ask her if he needs help in something, her standard reply is, yes I will send it home in a note with him, she never can tell me over the phone, and doesn't return my calls, I think she believes I am one of those parents who will sit by and let whatever happen, but I am not that parent, my son is my world, and I am always available and ever present in his life, so she can't get rid of me that easily, I am going to continue to teach my child, and watch her closely, if she wants to target my child, then she is targeting me.

Dove - posted on 05/18/2012

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How is her calling you to say he needs supplies stupid or bullying?

How is her not giving him work that HE misplaced bullying?

How would him getting suspended for not turning in his work be bullying?

How is him failing math (unless he is doing all the work and doing it correctly) her bullying him? If he's having trouble in math it is your job as a mom to make sure he gets the help he needs.

The only thing on your list that is bullying is the 'making her sick' comment and if you didn't hear it with your own ears...

I'm sorry. I realize you are upset and venting, but without any more information.... I really don't see that the teacher is to blame for all of this.

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