My 11 year old son and I live with my boyfriend and his 12 year old daughter. She got a Razor Scooter for her birthday. My son wants to ride it once but the girl's father has said no. He thinks my son isn't a good enough bicycle rider to ride the scooter and will mess it up. Is it wrong of me to be offended that he said that and won't allow my son to ride it once?

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Sarah - posted on 12/04/2014

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If the scooter is super new, then I get it if the 12 yo is being possessive. I don't think it is appropriate, but I do understand. This is a foot powered scooter, not a motorcycle, they are not hard to ride. So you BF argument does not hold water with me. What is the most damage he could do to it? This is a good time to teach about sharing and empathy, "how would she feel if she were in his shoes"? Unfortunately that is dad's lesson to teach and he doesn't seem interested.
Whatever happens make sure they wear their helmets!

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Sarah - posted on 12/04/2014

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Additionally, you can help him learn a tough life lesson. That some kids are selfish, but he doesn't have to be in return. You can't force your BF daughter to share, but keep on encouraging your son to be generous and kind and praise him for his behavior.

Jennifer - posted on 12/04/2014

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Personally, I've always taught my son to share. He would willingly let her ride once or twice. He constantly lets the girl into his room to play with his things and use his Minecraft books.

Sarah - posted on 12/04/2014

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It is the 12 yr old's scooter. It is her decision to make not yours or your son's. If she does not want him riding it then he should not ride it. If he wants to ride one then he can either get one for a birthday or Christmas or save up his money and buy one. It would be the same thing if your son got something and did not want the 12 yr old to use it. It is his and his decision to make who he allows to use it and when.

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