My 11 yr old son is having a very hard time concentrating in class and at home...is this ADD? What signs should I look for?
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Jodi - posted on 12/08/2012
Limit his time on his xbox, ipad and phone. He shouldn't be spending all of his spare time doing this. I use after school and homework time a time to spend with my kids (which is hard if you work later hours), and we have afternoon snack together, then a chat about their days. This is also the time where I can help them with any homework. I find this an awesome connection with my kids, so that even if we have no other time that week, I still have been able to get that connection.
Try family pizza and movie night, even if it is just at home. We also have a lot of board games, so sometimes have a games night. We keep an eye out for any community events (such as markets), and occasionally do this.
Dinner time, for us, is a way for us to talk about all sorts of things. We sometimes have discussions about our day, other time, we may discuss something that is going on in the world at the moment, or a TV show we like. My kids don't have TVs in their rooms, so if there is something they want to watch, they have to be in the main living areas of the house, and therefore it becomes a family thing.
Anyway, they are just some of the ways our family connects. Rest assured, he will come out the other end okay, one of ours is out the other end, and he's refocused a lot. The other is still a bit vague - I frequently have to repeat myself with him, LOL. Just make sure that during this time you maintain the connections with him, and it will pass :)
Debbie - posted on 12/08/2012
Thanks for the insight Jodi - I find he's very 'spaced' out... he'll jump from his xbox to his ipad to his phone...during dinner he's very quiet and fidgety...he has friends though, and they go outside regularly...maybe i'm being over precautios? but at the same time, i wish there was more for us to do together....are there any things you can recommend we do together to spend fun quality time?
Jodi - posted on 12/06/2012
It's pretty normal for boys between the ages of about 10 and 13 to be quite vague and distracted. It is the result of the testosterone burst they have as they head into puberty. Both of our boys went through it. It is frustrating sometimes, and can interfere a bit with their everyday lives. You need to work at keeping him on task, and continue to remind him in order to keep him focused. What sort of behaviour is he displaying?
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