my 11yr old daughter steals money

Julia T - posted on 10/13/2012 ( 4 moms have responded )

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My daughter impulsively takes money from her sister when we have said no. Why does she do this? She has a good life with a very loving family who still eat dinner together. I'm at a loss. Help

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User - posted on 10/14/2012

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Thank you Sarah. I needed to hear that. I told her she had to earn the $10 back so she cleaned out my car for starters and I will keep her ipod indefinitely. She's mad and I hope she stays mad for a while. Might be harder to forget the bad choice. More chores to come to pay back the money.

Sarah - posted on 10/14/2012

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You take her ipod away for a few days? That's pain? How about a month? How about grounding her, taking away all her priviledges, no tv, no phone, making her do her sister's chores? Giving the money back?! No, you can't follow her around all the time, but she's not really having any consequences. Be more strict. Make her realize that she can truly suffer by not following the rules. No offense, but I think your punishment is way too lenient. She will continue the behaviour until she has truly actually suffered a consequence. My sister stole from me all through my teen years, my parents never did much about it. She turned into a drug addict and alcoholic (now recovering for 20 years). We ate dinner at the same table together every night. Even "good" attentive families can have these things happen. My parents were great parents who just didn't want her to suffer. But it happened to them. Crack the whip and get serious about punishing.

Julia T - posted on 10/13/2012

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I take away her ipod for a few days and I try to explain that it leads to trouble and we don't want her to suffer the pain of continuing to make bad choices. Its up to her to make good choices we cant follow her around all the time. I don't know what else to do.

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