Taylor - posted on 10/30/2014 ( 4 moms have responded )
My daughter has always been independent and resisted ever having her hand held metaphorically speaking or being told what to do however now days it seems she is literally unable to follow any sort of rule what so ever. We say she can stay out and play till six, she'll come home at 6:30 with smart mouth attitude. We say no friends can come over when we run to the grocery store and come home to find her sneaking her friends out the back door. And so on and so on.
She is big on social media like most kids her age, but literally freaks out if I attempt to put any limits on her access, time on said medias, or my vigilance over her activity on said medias.
For example, she isn't allowed to have the table in her room when it's time for bed on a school night...so she waits till everyone goes to bed and is asleep before sneaking out of her room to take it. She's even hid it in her room so we can't take it away from her.
Then there is the type of activity she does on these sites, again for example a alternate facebook account pretending to be her adopted sister. She also claims on this alternate persona that she's cutting herself(which is false...I checked her to make sure) and claims to be suicidal.
I've tried being understanding, punishing, yelling, and even forbidding her internet access...which fails because either she again steals my phone or table to gain access or wait till my husband and I are out of the house or she'll go to her friends house to gain access.
I really don't know what to do any more. We can't trust her to say even the smallest of truth and she is getting to be nearly impossible to be around. Anyone have any suggestions?