My 12-year old steals from everyone in the house, clothes, money, jewelry. It is destroying our family and I don't know what to do at this point. I feel like we have tried everything.

Kelly - posted on 08/17/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )




We've tried punishments, therapy, mentors. Nothing seems to phase my child. When she is caught she keeps lieing to cover it up and only makes it worse. We are beyond fed up. I've looked into boarding/theraputic schools but can not afford it. I just don't know what to do. If she keeps on the path she is on now she will be in juvenile detention center or jail.


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Jane - posted on 08/17/2011




My son did the same thing. He turned out to be ADHD, ODD and Bipolar. If he stays on his meds he does a lot better. Have her evaluated by a psychologist to see if there is some underlying mental issue.

♏*PHOENIX*♏ - posted on 08/17/2011




When and how did this start??

When I was 9 I was used to steal things for my dads girlfriend.

She would take me and my two sisters and her two sons in a store like Wal-Mart and stuff things in our coats….and pants…and shirts…this went on for a good two years.

Well after that I acquired the taste for steeling as did my sisters and her two sons, we would start going in on our own to steal candy and toys and clothes AND it did not help that we had next to nothing, the fact that I cold not dress as cute as other girls in my classes…ect

But it got me in lots of trouble and even made my pastor at the time, think I had the devil in me…and so they did something like a “Casting” out of sorts..but I still stole…I stopped around of the age of 16 when the guilt was tooo strong.

Anyway…there IS a reason why she is doing this…ask her, im sure she likes it, but ask her when was the first time she started stealing….was she shown to do such a thing??

No matter the punishment, unless she is scared straight she will keep doing it…..not matter what you do.

Rebecca - posted on 08/17/2011




I had this same problem with my daughter and the lies were outrageous, i would suggest you get her mental health evaluated. I did with my daughter and found out that she is bi-polar which makes the behavior more understandable. It is hard though i tried everything for her but she still chooses to do bad. Last i heard she is living on the streets and using so my suggestion is to look for a mental health provider before its to late. With my daughter she became an adult and she refuses to be medicated so when they are minors you are the one who has the choice not here, i am so sorry for what you are going through. I don't know if you are a women of faith but that is the only thing that keeps me going i pray for my daughter that God has mercy on her soul and i also pray that a hedge of protection around her, my hands are tied as far as making her get help which makes it that much harder. Her siblings just don't understand either. Prayer works and thats what i hold on to. God bless you

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