Amanda - posted on 02/10/2015 ( no moms have responded yet )
My middle child is aged 12((girl) and she has started developing an interest in boys. She talks on the phone with a particular male friend, and she has came to me asking if she wanted to date, would I be okay with it. I told her that I would have to see how responsible she is first. My 16 year old has a boyfriend, and my 12 year old feels as though it isn't fair that her sister gets to date. But I explained to her that a 16 year old mind and a 12 year old mind is very different.
My interests at 12 were hanging out with my friends, going on outings, going to amusement parks. I was still figuring out what I liked. But at 16 I was focused on prom, dances, cute boys, getting my first job, getting my license, doing teenage things. There is a BIG difference in those ages. Your maturity at 12 is not the same as 16. Your thinking is expanded. Your views on certain things have changed, but she somehow thinks that I am being unreasonable when I say that. I didn't allow my daughter to seriously date until she was 15, because she was mature and capable enough. I think every parent has different regulations with their children. Which is fine. But my rules for dating is you have to be mature enough, responsible, do good in school, and be dependable and trustworthy. If not, 15 or older is the youngest I will permit for dating. But I don't want to tell her she can't talk to boys, because that is unlikely. I want to break it down to her in a way she'll understand. Does anyone understand what I'm saying?