My 12yr old wants a boyfriend

Sonia - posted on 01/19/2015 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My 12 year old is beautiful. Blonde curly hair, blue eyes, long eyelashes, tanned, funny and so caring and sweet! But now she is getting a lot older and she came home telling me that a boy asked her out. Also twelve. So what should I do since he is kind of the swearing type and my girl doesn't swear. Also if it's apropriate for 12 year olds to be dating! Plz comment below!

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Sarah - posted on 01/20/2015

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What the heck?
Sonia, have you just been playing "mom" all day yesterday? No wonder I found post after post of bizarre advice! Geez. What a waste of time.
Jodi, you should be a detective!

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Kendall The 12year Old Kid - posted on 07/10/2015

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Honey don't worry. As you can tell by my name... I am a 12yr old girl too. I am wanting a BF too. I go to a very trashy public school and if you know she is a good girl then a ''BF'' is really just a close guy friend that only give piggyback rides and hugs. If she is a good girl she does not need a bad boy to ruin her sweetess. So I think she should just not with this guy. ;)

Hope for the best, Kendall

Jodi - posted on 01/19/2015

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Honey, if your 12 year old goes to school, she swears. I think I know 12 year olds pretty well. They won't do it around their parents, but I've heard even the most mild mannered 12 year old swear.

And how do you know he is the "swearing type"?

Anyway, way too young for a date. You can't stop them seeing each other at school, but you can certainly monitor their activities outside of school.


BTW, totally off topic, but is this your blog? Or are you just in the habit of lifting other people's photos for your kids' profiles?
http://groovybabyandmama.blogspot.com.au...

Sonia - posted on 01/19/2015

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No she doesn't swear I know my daughter way more than u and I know if she swears thanks xxx

Sarah - posted on 01/19/2015

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From the time my kids were very young they've known that they are not allowed to date until 16, period. Then on a case by case basis. Even if you have established boundaries it is not too late. Do you think your child is ready to date? Is she prepared to handle a relationship, set boundaries for herself and be an active contributor to a relationship? If not, then tell her no. Twelve is a good time for her to spend time with other girls, doing girl things. It's a good time for her to learn how to interact with boys in a casual group setting. Even the most mature 12 year old, is still only 12.

Trisha - posted on 01/19/2015

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My stepson had his first 'girlfriend' at 12. It is just a phase for some kids. Some kids take it really seriously, but usually it is just talk at school, where the kids barely communicate with each-other.
I would not worry too much about it. If they want to go out on real dates, then supervise them. Go to the same movie as them etc, but sit a few seats back.
It will probably brush over anyways.

Jodi - posted on 01/19/2015

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No, a 12 year old is not "a lot older" and should not be dating.
And believe me, your daughter swears, just not in earshot of you.

Dove - posted on 01/19/2015

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No it is not appropriate for a 12 year old to be dating and this is a conversation you should have started w/ her several years ago. She's got her whole life to be 'worried' about boys. For now she should be focused on school and friends and just being a kid.

I don't know how you would go about enforcing these ideals this late in the game though.

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