my 13 year old daughter and her ex boyfriend (confused mom)

Caroline - posted on 04/05/2016 ( 4 moms have responded )




My 13 year old daughter was dating a boy in her class from October to January, he broke up with her in January, they stayed far apart from each other, and then in the being of march he started getting close to her again, they have become friends, does this boy still have feelings for her or should I be worried about this boy.


Michelle - posted on 04/05/2016




She's only 13!!! Let her be a child rather than thinking that her 1st boyfriend is "the one".
At the moment she shouldn't be dating, she should be concentrating on her school work.
When she's older you need to stay out of her love life. If they are meant to be together they probably will when the time is right. If not then you have to accept that she can make her own decisions.

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♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/06/2016




I have a feeling that somehow this post and the OP's responses have been changed...

Caroline - posted on 04/05/2016




Thank you for your advice. Yes I am considering all those things. And totally agree i am over reacting. Yes she very mature for her age.

MaryAnn - posted on 04/05/2016




This is totally overly mature on your daughter's part, and incredibly immature on yours.
She's hardly a teenager, and you're thinking about "the one." I am 25, a mother, and totally, irrevocably in love with my husband. And I dont even know if I believe in "the one". You are essentially marrying her off, and she is a child, and that is so wrong and unfair to her. You are placing a very adult burden on her.
Here is a list of other things you should be considering instead.
1. Is your daughter sexually active?
2. If so, is she having protected sex?
3. If not, does she know where to find the resources for protected sex?
4. Has your daughter seen a gyno?
5. Is your daughter emotionally prepared for sex, and all it brings?
6. Is your daughter prepared for a breakup and all it brings?
7. Is your daughter neglecting other relationships or responsibilities to facilitate these relationships?
8. If your daughter needs help, can she safely come to you about it?

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