K - posted on 03/22/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )
After giving birh to my beautiful daughter I nursed to took care of her until she was 1 and a half. I was not there for her second birthday. We reunite after her 2nd birthday. After living with me for nine months I got a job offer in another country. I leave her behind with her dad. I took that job offer so I could better support my family. Every summer my daughter visits me. After five years her dad migrated so my daughter was with her grandmother. Both parents are gone but I was one supporting my daughter financially(school fees, school trips etc) since her dad was not working. With all of that we showed lots of love. After a about 4 years my daughter migrated to be her dad. I missed her an awful lot because visitation was a little difficult since I didn't have a visa to go visa her and whenever she gets holidays from she often wants to stay because she was enjoying her new friends and the new country. I understand and continue to communicate with he.
Fours later I joined the crew. I was so happy to reunit with my family. My daughter has grown so much. She is very intelligent. She expresses herself very well. She has a mind of her own. I dont have to say much when it comes on to chores in the house and other simple things. I feel like I'm afraid of her somewhat. She is funny, talkative, spend long time video chatting with he4 friends and she likes to go out.
I get controlling sometimes because I this she is too expressive it comes off to me aggressive at time. I am very passionate myself and I want to get my point across but she talks over me, and I think that disrespectful. I love my daughter to bits and she is the reason why I'm here now. She crys and stay away from me after we have a fight. She doesn't want to speak to me even if I ty to force her. I cry also because it makes me sad. I dont want her to be afraid of me. I want us to be mother and daughter no not enemies. She stays closer to her and and he4 20 year old sister. That pain my heart because I want us to have good relationship also.
What can I do to bring back that closeness to us? What should I say to her?
I dont want to loose my daughter at 13 ....