My 13 year old daughter snuck out

Emily - posted on 06/13/2015 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 14. She has straight A's and honestly I couldn't wish for a sweeter girl. However, recently she started hanging out with a new group of girls and while they were over they snuck out of the house at 1 A.M., walked to the nearest pizza hut (which is over 6 miles away from my house) while I was asleep. The only reason I found out about it is because they bragged about their "adventure" the following day at school. So, I talked with her and confiscated her phone. Should I continue to let her hang out with this group of girls? I'm 99% sure that they aren't REALLY bad, if you know what I mean. They don't do drugs or have sex or things of that nature but I'm honestly concerned.

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Dove - posted on 06/14/2015

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Yesterday I was going to say I would give them another chance, but Shawnn is right... if they don't know this behavior is completely unacceptable by 13/14 years old... they aren't likely to CARE when they 'learn' that it is unacceptable. My kids started getting a lot of freedom at 12, but I made them full aware that I NEED to know where they are and when and that sneaking out was never acceptable because I wouldn't know they were gone and what if there was a problem? Sneaking out at 1am and walking over 6 miles away....? Yeah, no... those kids wouldn't be at my house again and my kids wouldn't be at theirs.

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 06/14/2015

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Wow. Did they get anything to eat? Pizza Hut, the global chain, generally has a closing time of 9 pm, being a family restaurant.
If the girls snuck out, their parents need to know, so that they can apply appropriate discipline to the situation. Its your job to tell the parents, since you were effectively the 'adult in charge' of these girls when they snuck out.
Also, I have to say, any group of girls who think sneaking out at 13 is OK, need to be checked out.

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Errin - posted on 06/20/2015

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I also posted the last one but by talking to her and her friends and explaining to them what could have happened they will understand that your concerned and care, I had friends with very strict parents and I'm telling you the kids were just better at hiding things ... Trust me teenagers are gonna do things you don't want them too every now and then .it doesn't matter how good of a parent you are or how good there grades are....but the last thing you want is for them to be too scared to call you when something happens...

Errin - posted on 06/20/2015

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So I'm only 23 but I had my daughter young age 19... With that I'm a young mom and remember my teens extremely well... My friends and I used to sneak out of my house all the time ... Didn't tell my parents til about a year ago.. Anyways we didn't do anything expect go to Timmies get hot chocolate and then walk home .. My friends were good people , we got good grades And now ones a nurse and the others a paralegal and I'm 23 own my home and have an amazing little family ... Telling ur daughter she can't hang out with people will only make her rebel more ... Talk to her , tell her friends you know and it's never to happen again ... But if she's as good as u say she is allow her to make a mistake here or there and grow from it :)

Ev - posted on 06/15/2015

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I have to agree with these ladies. Whatever made them think it was a good idea needs to shown to them how dangerous it is going out that late at night walking 6 miles away from home like that. Its dark. There are strangers out in cars and what would you have done if they had gotten into a car with a strange person and then diappeared? It happens. You had the responsibility of making sure those girls were where they were supposed to be. Time to talk to the other parents and let your daughter know that she is not going to be staying over at anyone's house anytime soon.

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