My 13 year old daughter wants to use her ipod touch and laptop all the time. If I tell her not to use them and to study instead of just do something else, such as play basketball outside, she says I am being mean to her. Any suggestions? Should I set up a schedule, like a time limit?
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Megan - posted on 06/02/2015
I am a 13-year-old girl who can relate to your daughter. If her use of electronic devices is negatively affecting her grades and other activities, then I would definitely recommend a somewhat strict limit. However, if her grades are still good and she isn't slacking off just for time on her devices, then I wouldn't recommend a very strict limit. I know this from experience. It feels like you are being punished for something that you did not do. Set limits, but be careful not to go overboard.
Beth - posted on 04/01/2012
Thank you everyone for your responses about my daughter and her computer/ipod. My DH and I decided to not let her use electronics during the school week. We told her only on the weekends. This will be the first week we try this, thanks again.
Why not just take it away? I never understand other parents being hesitant on this. When my 15 year old doens't do his homework or neglects his chores, the computer is teh first thing to go. He doesn't get it back until he earns it back.
Why is this difficult?
Jodi - posted on 03/28/2012
No technology or play until homework is completed (perhaps allow a short 1/2 hour break when she first gets home from school, just so she can have some down time). So what if she thinks you are being mean. She'll get over it. She will also get used to the rule.
You could also set a rule that she can't have computer access on weeknights at all, except for homework, until she can start showing some responsibility with her school work, and stop disrespecting your for implementing rules.
Esrae - posted on 06/02/2015
I have same concerns with my 12 year old daughter. She's rather be on the electronics instead of outside practicing Her favorite sports.
However, homework must always be competed first and then she can Have electronics, but only a short time if at all during the weekdays. If her grades fall below her capabilities, then she loses them indefinitely. She certainly doesn't consider me a prized mom with these rules but hey I'm her mom and have to lay down rules. That's how it is and boy she can get mad
Amber - posted on 06/08/2014
hi im amber I am 11 years old and I don't have a kid but I know what they go through It is tough u where a kid once it is hard to stop this problem but I found a way all I did was when I was alone I would go somewhere to type my felling and I had something to do and I had not time for humping and I just keep up with friends and I had a paper and I would number it to 30 and see how long I could go with out humping and It works out sooner or later and you can try it with your kid. answer back please.
Regina - posted on 06/08/2014
I am having the same problem. It seems easy to take it away if my daughter neglects her other responsibilities, but it is not. I think it was the worst thing I let her convinced me to buy for her. I gave to her when she was 12 1/2, now she is almost 14. She wants a cell phone now (the best one). She plays violin in an orchestra, she has lots of opportunities to play with many famous people, but she says she doesn't want to play anymore. She also plays soccer and has a great talent but it seems she doesn't care about it anymore. She just wants to text all the time and receives texts from her friends who sometimes write so stupid and inappropriate stuff ( like rape me, f...me, when talking about a famous guy). She says if I take the IPOD from her she will die, her life will be over. Sincerely I don't know what to do. That's all she wants to do, text, that's all!
My kids get limited computer time as it is, but you'd better believe their homework is done before they even touch the computer.
Definitely set limits and definitely enforce them. If she thinks you're being mean.... that's a fairly good indicator that you're doing the right thing. It's not our job to be nice to our kids (though it IS nice when we can be)... it's our job to parent them and school work and physical activity are way more important than computer play time.
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