my 13 year old daughter was diagnosed with aspergers last april, im now worrying that my 2 youngest children might also have aspergers

Caroline - posted on 09/30/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )




my daughter and husband are in denial and are pretending it doesnt exist, i made a promise to my daughter that i wouldnt tell anyone, i now feel isolated, frustrated and lost, but dont want to betray her loss. I did inform her secondary school of the diagnose but have not told a family member or friend.


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TA - posted on 09/30/2013




First off, it's nothing to be ashamed of, and it is better to find out as early as possible, so you can find coping strategies. Try doing internet searches with your city/state names and terms like "autism support" or "aspie parents," etc. Talking to other parents is really helpful and educational.

My sister is mostly likely an undiagnosed Aspie and not figuring that out until you're in your late 40s is not a good thing; not knowing there is a specific cause and just feeling like you don't fit in, people don't like you, even your family, etc. is awful.

Give them both some time - I think denial is pretty standard and it takes some people longer than others to get past that stage. It took me a while to act on things that were going on with my daughter, and even though I told myself intellectually that I was dealing with it, I think I was just trying to be in denial. :)

There is lots of help out there - be brave and hang in there. :)

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