My 13 year old getting up for school.

Debbie - posted on 12/16/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )

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I have a hard time everyday to get my 13 year old son up to get him to school. He is bigger than me so physically forcing him is not something I can do. My husband and I have recently separated and my son and I had to move in with my dad. Now I have to take to his friends house to catch the bus every morning but it is a struggle and half the time he refuses to go at all. I have done the taking away his games and phone but it doesn't seem to help. There is only one extra room at my dad's house so most of the time my son just hides out in there. There is not a lot for him to do. I work 2 nights during the week and then work all day on the weekends. My son's dad has a lot of health problems so he isn't much help for me. I just don't know what I can do for him. The school doesn't respond to phone calls very well. That is one thing that my son's dad has helped with, is to call the school.

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Sheila - posted on 12/16/2013

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When I was your sons age my parents got divorced so I can say I can relate to this a lot. My mother went through the same thing with me. What he is doing is expressing himself in a way we may not like. But when parents split or get the big D some never really think about the children. Children take it harder than the ones actually splitting up. The best thing you can do is see what is best for him. Is his dad a good father? If so see if he would like to live with his dad and see if things change any. It took my mom 5 years to get me back to where i could even handle dealing with the separation and moving on with my life. You have to think of things like would he rather be with his dad and things like this. It may be the hardest thing you deal with but you will always be his mama no matter where he is. I would say see if going to his dads for a week or so would help. If so then I would have him move in with his father. If it is going to help get him a good education then do what is best for him. i said this above earlier Parents normally dont think about the children when splitting and there is where the problem is. I hope this helps a little. As i have been through this before I can relate with him.

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