My 13 year old son keeps leaving the house and coming in at anytime

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I am so fed up with my son. The first time he left was the weekend before Halloween. He came home at 12:30am and told me and his step dad he had been kidnapped. Of course we called the police, but his story just did not add up. When he came home he had nothing on except for shorts (it was cold). He had tears and snot running down his face. I mean he put on a show. Long story short, the police confronted the lie and he confessed. The next week, he left again on a school night and came walking to the house as I was leaving for work. He would not tell me where he was. He has left again and I am fed up! I have taken everything away. His birthday is next week. He gets nothing, not even for Christmas. I do not know what to do about this. We stress rules and don't bend them, but he is in a "I don't give a crap stage". I just don't want my child to get hurt or worse.

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Ev - posted on 11/25/2015

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Counseling is good as well. Also get his teachers and the school involved too so that maybe they can talk to him not to get him in trouble but help to get to the bottom of his actions ......school counselor might be a good help to.

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As I said, this has just started. We are installing cameras now. No we do not have an alarm and cops have not been called. He will start counseling next week and we are going from there. An alarm is certainly something I will do. Thanks for your advice.

Ev - posted on 11/25/2015

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Something is not getting through to him. But I would definitely be calling the police department each and every time he leaves and you can not locate him.

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Evelyn, it may be hard to believe but it happens. No one can watch a child 24hrs. He just started this and I am trying everything I can to nip it now. I am in no way a slack on my rules. I never had this issue with his two older sisters.

Ev - posted on 11/25/2015

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ANd have you been consistent with other forms of consequences. Have you tried using alarms to alert you to his leaving. Have you called the cops when he runs off for hours at a time?

Ev - posted on 11/25/2015

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I have a hard time believing that he just comes and goes as he pleases yet you take everything away and he still does this. You are the parent and you can put a stop to his breaking the rules. Nail his windows shut, put an alarm on all the doors. Call the police every time he leaves as a runaway. Enforce consequences more strictly.

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