My 13 year old wants to pierce her nipples??

Fiona - posted on 04/21/2014 ( 14 moms have responded )

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I got her ears pierced when she was a baby. Then when she was 8, she got her second ear piercing. After that, she got her cartilage pierced when she was 12. Now shes asking for her nipples. Is that too exposed?? Her best friend has hers pierced because her mom is a professional piercer. What should i do?

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Jodi - posted on 04/21/2014

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Well, you can. You can restrict her time with her friend and make sure it is 100% supervised.

Kristin - posted on 04/24/2014

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Why you would want to pierce a baby's ears is a mystery to me. Too risky. Also 8 and 12 is too young for the ear thing. I would suspect piercing a 13 year old's nipples is against the law. I think your daughter needs a new best friend and putting holes in peoples bodies does not make her mother a proffesional....

♫ Shawnn ♪♫♫ - posted on 04/23/2014

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Good grief. She's your kid. If you want to allow something that vulgar (in my opinion) it's entirely up to you.

Check out the laws about body altering in your state, however, as a 13 YO having piercings in their anatomy could be illegal.

"There's nothing we can do" WRONG ANSWER Fiona. YOU ARE THE PARENT. Therefore there's EVERYTHING that you can do, including saying NO and sticking to it. If someone else then pierces anything on your child, you can prosecute for assault.

Stop saying 'nothing we can do'. Take charge.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 04/22/2014

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Oh HELL no! You call up that mother and tell her that you do NOT give parental consent to have her daughter pierced anywhere on her person, and now that the daughter is trying to take matters into her own hands that time spent with her daughter will be limited and supervised at YOUR house. So stupid to pierce a 13 year olds nipple.

Michelle - posted on 04/22/2014

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The best friends Mother can refuse to do it. If she doesn't approve of doing it to your daughter then she just doesn't, it's simple.
If the other Mother won't respect your wishes then limit the amount of time you daughter spends with her friend. I wouldn't want my daughter around them.

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Grace Garment - posted on 04/24/2014

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SAY NO AND WHY WOULD YOU WANT TO PIERCE A BABY'S EARS 8. And 12 IS WAY TOO YOUNG IT SHOULD BE AGAINST THE LAW TO HAVE ANYONE UNDER 18 TO HAVE THIAR NIPPLES PIERCED

Liz - posted on 04/23/2014

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If that were my daughter I would be restricting time with the friend to full supervision only, while also telling her parent the reason and that ANY alteration of my daughter's anatomy without my consent would be considered assault and prosecuted as such to the full extent of the law.

Of course you can do something. That's our job as parents. Would it be popular with your daughter? Probably not. We're not in this role for popularity though.

Christine - posted on 04/23/2014

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If it's a piercing she really really wants then she CAN wait til she's 18 to go get it done. It's your decision if she can get it done or not. She's too young to be getting something so sexual. You might as well show/tell her about all the infections and stuff that could happen once she gets it pierced especially from a person who isn't licensed to even do it in the first place. Good luck!

Fiona - posted on 04/21/2014

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I called her and she says that she knows that it is a little too sexual but she thinks that her daughter is ok to have them. Her best friend wants to pierce my daughters nipples because she wants to be a professional piercer one day so she thinks that she can pierce my daughters too. My daughters friends mother dosent approve of her piercing my daughter, but there is nothing we can do.

Jodi - posted on 04/21/2014

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Her best friend is going to do it or her best friend's mother? You need to have a chat to the friend's mother about the inappropriateness of 13 year olds having pierced nipples. Clearly she somehow condones it.

Fiona - posted on 04/21/2014

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I told her that it was ilagal and that it would hurt a lot but she just said that if i didnt let her, she was going to get her best friend to pierce them for her. What to do now??

Michelle - posted on 04/21/2014

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I wouldn't be allowing it at all. Why would a 13yo want her nipples done other than to be cool like her friend. I would be more concerned about who her friends are and why she feels she has to do the same.
Maybe you need to have a good talk together and build up her self esteem so she doesn't feel that she has to do the same as her friends. If she she is bowing to peer pressure now, she's going to have a harder time in a few years.

Jodi - posted on 04/21/2014

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Well, where I live, that's classified as a sexual piercing and is an illegal piercing to perform on a child without parental consent.....and there is a reason for that. Why on earth would you want to allow your 13 year old child to have a sexual piercing? You tell her no, that's what you do. Saying no to your children is often much easier than people think it is.

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