my 13 year old with autism

Jennifer - posted on 09/30/2014 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My son is 13 yrs old. he has pdd- nos. He hates school and its a battle everyday. He spends all his free time playing his ps3. Doesn't try to make friends and doesn't seem to want any. does anyone have any advice.

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Ariana - posted on 10/02/2014

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Thanks Erin I suppose that's what this forum is for, getting some advice.

And it sounds like you're doing a lot for your son Jennifer, that's awesome. I know this is random but you might consider putting him into some form of martial arts program. It's a great activity that promotes self-esteem, self-discipline, focus and many other things (as a lot of individual sports and activities do). It's great for starting at any age and ability level.

I know that's separate from school but building confidence and being social in an organized setting could also help him break out of his shell and will hopefully leak over into all aspects of his life.

If nothing else he'll get to do a fun recreational activity.

Jennifer - posted on 09/30/2014

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Thank you so much for your advice. I just got a call from a place that can provided ABA therapy for joe. I also emailed his teacher asking her to have a child from general education to spend an hour a day with him. He's recieveing occupational services and sees a dr. At Mary bridge. Ill just keep plugging along trying to help him.

Erin - posted on 09/30/2014

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I just wanted to mention that that was excellent advice and it really sounds like you want to help. I think that is great! I hope that advice helps the child.

Ariana - posted on 09/30/2014

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Is there a gaming club at his school or in the community? You might want to try to convince him to join a club that has a mutual interest as him, or see if one could be started by a teacher there.

He may have trouble making friends and therefore he's given up and doesn't want to try to make any. I know a lot of kids that have trouble making friends and autism will just make it even harder to realize social cues and rules. You can try reading "The Science of Making Friends - Helping Socially Challenged Teens and Young Adults". It's for everyone but specifically geared to people with Autism or Aspergers (or social anxiety among other things). I've read it and it's quite helpful if your son does decide he wants to make friends.

Could you get your son a tutor, is that a factor of disliking school? It's probably more based on the social aspect. I would ask the teachers or guidance counsellor what clubs/groups are in the school and encourage your son to join one that is somewhat related to what he likes. It will help him feel more connected to the school hopefully.

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