Candice - posted on 01/03/2014 ( 8 moms have responded )
My daughter is very close to be and usually honest. If she is keeping a secret she usually tells on herself later on. She told me that she has a bf but he's 14. I don't allow her to go out much without supervision bc of the area we live in is not that safe. She believes we are over protective of her. My husband and I had her as teenagers and we are petrified of history repeating itself. Although me and my husband had A LOT more freedom at her age. I trust her I just don't trust the world. Anyway we allowed her to take her kid sister outside to play in the snow for about 2hrs. When they came home our 4yr old told on her telling us she was with that boy playing in the snow. I think she must have called him and told the boy to come out bc she had some time to see him. But I feel it was sneaky bc my youngest told me and I don't think she was going to tell me bc she knows I'm not ready for the headache. Ive read their texts and one time she accidentally sent me a message she intended to send him. They tell each other they love each other and told her that he's going to ride out this tough time she's having with not being able to see him. It seems as they carry a relationship via text bc they don't even go to the same school. They meet at a school they both transferred from. I just feel all teen boys eventually want sex and I don't want that . Shes a very good smart girl she just has this stupid bf. What can I do ? Do I take away her cell ? Do I punish her? Are we being to hard on her ? HELP! I don't want this to ruin our relationship which is pretty much awesome . We are friends but at the end of the day I'm a responsible mother and that's that.