my 14 month old keeps taking off his diaper and grabbing his privates
Dove - posted on 05/29/2015
Difficult to teach is not an excuse to not learn. You can just keep repeating that he's a boy and has a penis and she is a girl and has a vagina... No big deal. Whether or not she is capable of eventually grasping that concept is something I don't know because I don't know the severity of her autism, but I don't actually see how that is relevant to how you handle your toddler son.
Dinessa - posted on 05/27/2015
I would suggest reinforcing to all of your children that nudity is only appropriate in the bathroom and bedroom (or wherever your children change into and out of their clothes).
My daughter was roughly a year old when she started wanting to explore her body more thoroughly; it's perfectly natural, if occasionally uncomfortable for the parents.
During bathtime, I allowed her to investigate as she saw fit, provided that she wasn't doing anything that could cause physical harm, of course. During diaper changes, I made sure that she understood that excrement was dirty, but if she really wanted to touch any newly exposed body parts after she was clean, that was only a problem if it caused delays in the process of getting dressed. If your son grabs his penis while you're changing his diaper, treat it as you would if he started grabbing his foot, honestly. You can kindly tell him "that's enough" and finish dressing him.
In the rest of the house, or in public, we simply repeated to her that it wasn't polite to undress or dig her hands around in her clothing in public. It takes some repetition, as all things do with children, but eventually they stop wanting to be nude or scratch their genitals in public.
JazzyGirl - posted on 05/26/2015
Lol, I remember those days. My son is now four and he still does this occasionally. It's completely normal. Babies are curious and they learn through touch and sight. He's probably wondering hey what's down there? this is new. There was one time my son was two and I was cleaning up while I had him in a playpen at a parenting program, when he completely stripped out of is pajamas and surprised the heck out of me. There have been a couple times where he's gone streaking naked through the house running away from me after taking a bath. It probably gives him a sense of liberation. As long as he's not doing this out in public and your the only one changing him you're good to Go. As far as your daughters go just change him in in a private room if you're concerned about this, and ask that they let you change their little brother alone and wait till mommy gets done. I hope that this helps a little, but you've got nothing to worry about. I used to be extra conservative too about my son.
Kristina - posted on 05/26/2015
Totally agree with Dove and Jodi, Do not smack your child because of that and say dirty! Are you kidding me????? My son has been doing this all day actually....im sure diapers are bothering them and they want them off or for whatever reason....they never see their privates so when they see them maybe they're curious to what it down there. no biggie, they're kids and will outgrow it and have something new to do soon.
Dove - posted on 05/26/2015
So what? Boys have a penis and they are pretty much obsessed w/ it from the moment they find it til the moment they die. Do NOT punish your baby for being normal and there is nothing wrong w/ your daughters learning this as well. Do you mean the girls are curious about their bodies? Also normal. They are old enough to understand that it is a private matter, but your son has another year or two before he will be really able to grasp this concept.
The only thing I would worry about is taking off the diaper as if he does that when there is a poop... that could be a messy problem. Clothes that make his diaper hard to access and/or duct tape may help, but as for touching his penis... as long as he's not poopy let him be.
Jodi - posted on 05/26/2015
Seriously Emily? WTF is wrong with you?
There is nothing dirty about a boy exploring his body. Sure, the taking the diaper off can be a hassle. I had that with both of my kids (both genders). I am not kidding when I say use some duct tape, LOL. But do NOT tell him it is dirty or you start to build issues for a child that will become incredibly deep seeded. And please don't smack a child for it either, that's just a ridiculous suggestion from the other poster.
With regard to him grabbing his penis (yes we can use the word penis here, because that's what it is), this is normal behaviour. I am also not seeing the problem with the girls seeing it. Boys have a penis. I'm not sure why that should be a big deal. They will only make a big deal over it if you do. Otherwise, just treat it as a fact of life.
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