My 14 year old daughter thinks she runs the house

Allison - posted on 12/13/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My 14 year old daughter thinks she runs the house. She gets really angry if things don't go her way, she never helps me with any thing. What do I do.

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Michelle - posted on 12/13/2014

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I'm not amazing, I just have expectations and my children know the consequences if they don't do what they are told. My husband and I work full time so we don't have time to all the housework. The least the boys can do is their own laundry.
In regards to the divorce affecting the children, yes it does to a certain degree but you can't blame the divorce for their behaviour. Get them into therapy but you need to set the boundaries at home. I divorced the Father of my 2 oldest children and they are very happy, well mannered young men. My ex husband did compensate for the divorce when we first split and it backfired on him. He couldn't control the boys and it made for a lot of work to get back to them listening to him.
I on the other hand kept the discipline up and haven't had any problems. We do 50/50 shared care and the boys know that I have more rules compared to their Dad and they accept it. Kids are a lot more resilient then we give them credit for.

Sarah - posted on 12/13/2014

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I see you have several posts about both of your girls. They are angry over the divorce, sure that's ok. A family therapist may help the three of you set some boundaries and rules regarding respect and the responsibilities of being part of the family.
You all have been through a big change and while there are some simple solutions to get your girls to help out with the chores. A neutral third party may help you all deal with the emotions related to the divorce.

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2014

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My 13 and 10yo's do their own laundry, have to tidy their rooms before they get any electronics on a weekend as well as keeping the kids room tidy as well. They make their own lunches for school. They have been doing this for the last 3 years and know if they don't do their laundry then they don't have clean clothes.

Allison - posted on 12/13/2014

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You are right. My 2 girls have been walking all over me but not anymore. Thank you

Michelle - posted on 12/13/2014

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What have you done about it up until now? This doesn't happen overnight, you have let her get her own way for a long time and now it's coming back to bite you.
You need to lay down the rules, have consequences for not following the rules and then following through with them. YOU need to be the parent and not let your teen make the rules.

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